Im in a pickle!

So someone recently found me on reunion.com rolleyes: ) The 1st year my husband and I were married I cheated. (I know, I know) The 1st year we almost didn't make it. Anyway, I slept with somone we both knew and both delt with on a daily basis. The other guy was quite abit older then me (14years) He has been married for 18 years.


So last week I get an unexpected email (thanks reunion.com ) and he wants to "sweep me away and marry me" Apparently his 18 year marriage fizzled out a few years ago which he says is partialy due to our affair.

We have emailed back and forth for a few days and it seems like I am a broken record. I tell him that there is no way that I will do anything to compromise my marriage and that I have had children since then and that Im very content where I am in my life. He doesn't seem to want to give up.

To me, this was just an "affair" I didn't realize that for the last 6 years he has day dreamed over this.
I would like to be friends, but anything more is out of the question. It is not even an option.

Why doesn't he hear me??!! Its really irritating.

Point of story, don't ever have an affair.... they will come abck and bite you!

 

I wouldn't even try to be just friends with him to be honest... if he's not getting the message now, being friends will just make him think he'll have more opportunities to convince you two be his gal for good. Keep on the net, not face to face, anything more than that may be like giving him the green light (people like to see things the wrong way as much as possible)

 

Yah, Im thanking myself I didn't give him anymore contact info in the 1st few emails when he sounded normal lol ~

 

Block his e-mail address. there is nothing you can gain from this.

 

Sounds to me like Karma is knocking on your door.

 

Is it coming back to haunt you or did it ever stop?

 

Perhaps, although I have done alot of good in the last 6 years. Guess I need to get out there and do some more.

 

Yes, I'd block him, Yellow. If you know it won't go anywhere, just do yourself a favor.

 

First off, when I read the title of this thread all I could think was, "Help, I'm in a pickle! Wherever did a pickle this big come from!?" Sorry, I'm a dork..

Anyways, block his e-mail address and forget he ever contacted you.

 

6 years is a long time, but from the sound of it you'll just have to break his heart

trust me, if that guy is still thinking of you, ANY contact will reinforce those feelings. you gotta just shut him off

 

Why would you even consider doing this?

Next thing will be you asking us why your husband is so uptight about you emailing some dude you cheated on him with years ago, who still wants you and won't take no for an answer.

Your bigger question is why you want this guy around. Still have a thing for him?

 

Nail on the head, right there.

 

Yellow,
First, you screwed up big time with the affair. Second, you screwed even worse by responding to his first email after 6 years. It's almost as if you are interested and keeping him around by responding to him. Just shut it off and wise up before you ruin your own marriage. I like to fuck everyone, too.....But, that is why I am 36 and single.
Lance.

 

But she enjoys the attention!

 

The average male is going to take any form of attention as encouragement. Hummmm she smiled, she must be hot for me. Block his email at once. Nothing that you can say to him is going to discourage him if he is not an adult. Unfortunately, the percentage of adult males is very low.

 

Obviously....

Yer playing an odd (and potentially marraige-ending) game YellowbellyHippie...but...each to their own i guess....

 

Iron Goth is just a woman hating asshole Go hate some other chic...


Anyways, My husband knows about the affair. So Im not keeping anything from him. I don't think Im encouraging anything just by responding to his email. I flat out told him I wasn't interested in anything further.
However, Im not going to reply anymore and hopefully he will leave me alone.

Oh and BTW, I wasn't trying to get any attention from this guy whatsoever, I had only responded to him telling him that I would NOT go back to where things were 6 years ago. So by saying I enjoy the attention is kind of stupid. (Iron Goth )

 

Don't PM me asking me not to comment on you and then attack me in public, YBH.

You asked for comments and opinions, and you got em.

 

I would just ignore him, he is just lonely after a failed marriage and claiming that it was over the "affair", etc. You don't want to hurt your marriage now or your kids so it is best to just let the guy suffer.

 

I didn't ask for comments or opinions.... I was telling a tale from the pages of my life.

You are a woman bashing freak, you stalk the Woman Issues forum just to bash on women. So ya, I PM'd you because you scare me with all of your woman hating crap.
gET HELP.