I'm gay, but is my friend?

This guy sounds like one of the best friends you could ever have Don't ever lose him, you are so lucky to have a friend like that. You made the right decision to tell him, this is the only way you are ever going to be able to move on. I know how hard it can be to find other gay/bi people out there but believe me, it will happen. You are only... eighteen, did you say? Cry, and talk to him, and wait, and soon everything will be good again.

 

Oh and I forgot to say, welcome to the forums!

 

Yep, I'm only eighteen. It has been really rough only because he was the first person to whom I felt attracted enough to desire a relationship, thus I was not only experiencing love for the first time but also discovering my true sexuality. I think that things are going to be much better now, however. We had dinner tonight and we could finally openly talk about our sexuality and relationships, which we had never previously done. The second-best thing that I can have is that I can just have an outstanding, open friendship with him, even if it could never go farther than that.

 

Hey PresidentialScandal (holy shit what a great sname), anyway, I'm 19 and going through the same thing with one my best friends. I've already told him I'm bi, and he dosen't care one bit. But I'm really attracted to him, and don't know how to approach him about it. How did you approach your friend about this. Feedback would be great. Thx and good luck

 

Thanks, this has been totally resolved in terms of my feelings for him, which I now have none at all. Honestly, the only way that you'll feel good again is to directly tell him your feelings, otherwise you are just going to continue wandering a nebulous plane... and things will not improve. That's why I ultimately had to just tell him that I liked him. It doesn't matter how you tell him, just make sure that you're alone. I was giving him a ride home when I did it, and I just pulled over the car when we were near his house and told him that I liked him. He might be freaked out about it, but even if that happens, you will find that the resolution is a much better feeling than anything else.

 

i was in a lucky situation - i came out to my best buddy and a few moments later he came out to me so it wasnt so uncomfortable.

But yea, i've been attracted to loadsa guy friends, but if u dont want to make anything uncomfortable i choose not to say anything because i value friendship much more, its someone to talk to, its someone to lean on, its someone to cry with, its someone to laugh with - its a best friend, completely unjudging but still human and can be freaked out by such a claim.

Broken down: If you want to risk your friendship, tell him and pray for the best.

If you dont want to risk it, dont tell him and move on.