Hi, I'm a 21 ur old male who is having trouble sexually, I've been sexually confused for a couple of years now. I have been with few women in my life and only have oral once to a guy, but every time I masturbate, which is like 4-5 times a day, I can't help but think about sucking a guy off or even getting dominated. I even tried crossdressing and found it very arousing until after I was sexually relieved then I felt almost a guilty feeling, or atleast not the same desire to crossdress. I don't really want to be gay or bisexual or atleast hesitant to take a step in that direction unless I feel it's descret, I'm very shy so I have a hard time getting out there and meeting women or men, but I have such odd sexual desires idk what to do.
That may be part of you issue. You probably don't have a choice whether you are gay or bi-sexual.......
Dude: The only person who really knows is you. You go and explore whatever sounds best TO YOU. If it is sex with another guy while you are wearing girly clothes, start there. You may or may not really enjoy it. But you will soon know what works best for you. There is a theory which says that we have been endowed with higher intelligence in evolutionary terms for the purpose of pursuing the goals of sexual selection. In other words, we need our smarts to get the best suited sexual partner for us. Do not forget that. Be smart about organizing your sexual life. Give it a thought. Play out different, realistic scenarios... You'll soon see that there is quite some wisdom in this... No one has ever decided to be gay, bi, str8 or anything else. Some people decide to suppress their true or even any sexuality, and yet some are more successful at doing so than the others. You do not want to go there, and spend the rest of your young life on the couches of various shrinks. There is plenty of evidence which suggests that human sexuality comes in many forms. Assuming that only ONE form of it acceptable is as wrong as saying that only people with blue eyes are real people. All the others are NOT? If your exploration takes you to the conclusion that you indeed, ARE gay, or bisexual, adopt that aspect of your personality just as much as you have adopted all of your other traits. Remember that "poor is the man whose pleasures depend on the permission of the others". KD
hey man - these are not odd sexual desires; just read some of the posts here and whiule you might not be mainstream, you're not odd. relax, don't lable yourself and just relax and discover your needs. Enjoy, Simon :sunny:
So what Do you guys think of me going to a gloryhole for the first time? I know of one but not sure, I've heard some bad things about those
Just try whatever takes your fancy & explore your own desires. There's absolutely nothing to feel guilty about - sounds like your parents/peers have given you some unfortunate opinions about homo/bisexuality. If you explore what you want - you will be much happier in life in the long term, I promise you. I've questioned my own sexuality a few times... tried various things... turns out I'm hetero... but I'm not ashamed of exploring other things, trying things out.
I'd have issues about trusting something like that, but that's me personally. Wouldn't you rather explore this side of yourself with someone you've built up some trust with? It will make the experience much more enjoyable.
