i'm cheating on my boyfriend....

Hey hey she deserved it!

 

If you're a big sex fan, and you're current boyfriend who you apparently want to spend the rest of your life with aren't connecting in that department, i'd let him go now. You're just not going to be happy, and if you want better sex then better love in your life - you should stop hurting him and let him give his love to someone else.

 

Maybe she wasnt happy in th relationship. Face it. Shit happens.

I knew I was happy when I broke up with my last boyfriend...he was nice and all but I wasnt ready to commit. He was clingy and girly in the way..liked everything my way...i hated it

You dont know what hes or was like. im sure she'll be sad for moments but why? Move on and find a guy thats right for you. The guy will survive, im sure..

but my advice...stay single..have fun..find what kind of person you are and what you like before getting into another relationship

 

Not you sweatleaf! the girl in question! ole dear ... i should have been clearer

 

I was coffeescent! I totally agree with sweatleaf- Shale I feel what sweetleaf stated in your comments wer totally worthy of there wording

 

I think most people are reacting to the fact that in 5 short days, she went from loving her boyfriend and wanting to spend her life with him in spite of the fact that she was cheating on him, to not loving him and not wanting to be with him, just not wanting to break up with him...

As was pointed out by someone else... she is either playing games with us here online, or she has some serious emotional and mental issues to deal with.

 

oops I read it wronghehe bumping heads here lol!

 

You really weren't clear on that one

 

emotional....i wouldnt say mental..

anyone who calls a young person in a relationship "mental" just because they go back and fourth with their feelings, should really stop being so ignorant

everyone knows that emotions are crazy in relationships. no matter what age

 

See, that's where you are wrong stacy... not every young person does this shit.... it takes a special class of person to act like the OP has stated she has...

 

i wonder if the OP has a new boyfriend yet...

 

I dont think emotion or pressure is an excuse to cheat. Sure there's problems in a relationship doesnt mean you'll ''go crazy'' and go ahead and cheat.

 

STILL i would not call her mental....she was unhappy..she was confused, he didnt treat her right...she didnt want to break his heart..thats all emotions talking. not mental problems. and earlier she learned her lesson, if she does it again and again. thats when i call her a little messed up in the head


dont jump to conclusions and judge a person like this. i cheated one time. never again. oh so im mental? no. its because im young and i didnt know what i wanted back then. Emotions set in.

people live and learn by doing mistakes. the mental ones are ones who *continuing do them.

 

Are you trying to be dense here stacy?

I didn't say she had emotional and mental issues because she cheated... I said it because of her 5 day turn around...

I don't have to jump to any conclusions about her, I can read what she said.

 

agreed, but you're wasting your time, apparently(like me)you didnt realize that 20 year olds still living at home coddled by mommy and daddy know everything?!

 

That's so not true though, I have met many young people that were sensible and honest with the way they interact with others. The vocal ones that whine about their relationships that they screw up (or support those who do) rather then talking to their partner give the rest a bad name.

But I will agree that trying to get this concept through to some around here is a definate waste of time.

 

do you not see that? thats clearly calling her a little mental. when she has emotional problems to deal with.

A LOT of young people say they are IN love because thats what the heart tells them. and a lot can change their minds within days or minutes because of something they did. Its young love. Its common.

Do you not remember your childhood?

Shes happy right now--she likes being single.

 

i perhaps should've been more specific....certain 20 year olds on hf

 

I see, you aren't acting dense at all are you?

I didn't say I didn't call her mental... I said I didnt call her mental because she cheated. Her cheating just makes her a lying cheating whore...

Her going from "I love him and want to spend my life with him" to "I want to break up with him because he doesn't treat me well" to "I'm happy now because he found out I am a lying cheating whore and kicked me out" in the space of 5 days makes her mental...

 

Ok that was the part i missed. I was thinking that too. for a minute. Why would you be with someone if they didnt treat you right? Then I thought that was what I did just recently. Maybe she felt bad for him or again..didnt want to break his heart, as she said. Its tough breaking peoples hearts.

I dont know. Im not her. Overall, she knows that was a mistake she needed to get out of, and she did. Somethings telling me shes happy that he broke up with her because she thinks it was deserved to be that way. Not being shes a "cheating whore" YEs shes a cheater but lets hope she learned from this. Cheating= losing in the end.