If you went to a 5 minute dating meeting...

.......with15 different people to question for 5 minutes each what would be the 5 most important questions that you would ask and must be answered by each candidate?

 

Not in a particular order.

Are you insecure, manipulative or jealous?
Are you controlling or want things your way?
Do you have a drug and alcohol problem?
Do you look for someone to take care of you?
Tell me about your sexual style and frequency.

I didn’t write these questions like an asshole, but using some past experiences as a guide.
And of course only 5 questions is not enough.

 

My ex was like this. She broke up with me when she realized I wasn't having any of it. Although I did stay with her for a year. 6 months in is when it all started. Then I put my foot down and the next 6 months was rocky after that.

 

How crazy are you, really?
What did you do to the last guy since you're single again?
Are you interested in a very sexual relationship?
Are you looking for a sugar daddy?
How bad are your financial problems?

Ding....next partner....

 

First I’d ask about her political interests. This is the most important pass fail question.

Second would be about religious affiliations if any and how deeply involved.

Third would be how do you feel about children.

Fourth would be about supporting herself job situation or dependent on someone else.

And if it ever got this far which would be rare the Fifth would be about the love of backpacking in the wilderness, experiences etc.

 

Let's see. Since I'm not interested in a relationship much beyond a sexual one my questions would revolve around that. They would be directed towards women. It isn't about knowing if our personalities would mesh long term. Only that we have a good time and enjoy each other while we have sex. No strings attached, erotic, messy, deep penetrating sex.

Are you attracted enough to me to want to have sex with me?
Do you expect to orgasm every time you have sex or are you happy just to satisfy your partner?
What positions do you enjoy the most?
Are you okay with intercourse bareback or do I need to bring along some condoms?
How promiscuous are you as in number of partners you have had?

These are just the first five. There are more I would like to ask but these will do for starters.

 

I think with the world like it is at the moment ,vaccination for Covid may now play a more important part

 

Regardless of being vaccinated I think I would like to have that stack of pancakes with Sabrina. How do you think she would answer my questions?

 

The original post for 5 questions, obviously in real life that would not be enough for me
Others wrote questions I liked and would also ask in addition to mine.

 

Agreed but the post asks for the 5 most important questions

 

I am male, so the questions are for a female...

1) How do you feel about your father?
2) Did you have jobs as a teenager, or in college?
3) When you have failed, how do you usually react to that?
4) Your best friend, do you think you have done more for her, or her more for you?
5) How willing do you think have been to take the high road?

 

interesting questions of which none are on my list. go figure, different strokes

 

Yeah. They’re all important

 

yes they are

 

Goes like this...

1) Question about father.... reveals a TON about possible hang ups/baggage etc.
2) Job as teen... early jobs teach critical social skills and can tamp down selfish behaviors
3) Failures.... the most important question, should be obvious
4) Relationship w/ best friend... could be an indication of what your relationship with her will be
5) Self sacrifice

 

IMO many of your questions so far will more than likely be lied about if they feel you are worth latching onto and don't want to dissuade you. If you ask, about being controlling, or wanting a sugar daddy, or past relationships or failures or self sacrifice etc.. Of course they will place themselves on higher ground. Wouldn't it be better to ask questions about where they stand on certain issues like politics, religion, current job, children, hobbies, sex, etc. I feel that these subjects cannot be lied about to comfort you. There are so many conniving people out there.

Yes 5 mins. is not enough but that's how these meetings are set up in big cities.

 

The whole idea of interview questions seems dumb to me, why would this short period be any different than meeting the first time at a party, bar, out walking the dog, we all have our list of issues we want answered at some point, but we work at making the human connection 1st, you would never get anywhere in "normal" situations if you said "wait before we have a fun and or interesting conversation, I must interrogate you to boredom's end"

 

Before the Pandemic there were many speed dating get togethers . I guess this thread is geared towards that sort of scenario.

 

Thanks

 

Yes it is