If you are thinking of hiomeschooling your childen please please read this

as a child who was homeschooled let me give you some veiws ....
my mom pulled me from 5th grade to homeschool me. she then slacked off on my schooling because she was way too busy and when i would get concerned and ask her if i could go back to public school so that i could get a proper education she would get absolutely pissed at me. i would be grounded for even asking. i hated the fact i had no friends and if i did make friends id lose them because my mother didnt want me to ever have any friends. she said if i had my family i didnt need friends, that they WERE my friends and socialization. then when it came time for me to get my GED my mom told me no that i didnt need it. she told me that i could get drafted if we ever had a war(dumb i know) so i listenend to her and didnt get it. and when it came time for me to learn how to drive she scared me shitless out of it. when i asked if i could ride the city bus she scared me out of that too. so when i turned 18 and wanted to move out and get a job she flipped out on me....told me i would never make it in the real world(hmm whos fault was that???). and told me if i left the house id probably get raped or killed.i wasnt allowed to date because she thought id turn into a slut and get pregnant by the age of 15(i was a christian girl that woulda never happened)i couldnt go anywhere ever, or shed send my dad with me which was embarrassing. i then proceeded to get my first job which pissed her off and she told me id never make it, but i did...i then moved out, but to this day i still dont have my GED i work for my father and still cant drive or ride the city bus out of fear....moving out and getting married were the only two things ive gotten from life so far, i still find it incredibly difficult to make friends....so i beg of you if your going to homeschool your children please do it with the notion that they arent your PRISONERS! i hated my life until i met my husband and moved out and everything. hes helping me catch up quite a bit, and i love him and am thankful for him every day!!!

 

Damn! I'm sorry but your Mom sux!

 

yeah well see i am not against home schooling...in fact i think its awesome...but in my case id rather live in a commune with alot of other people and have my children brought up that way with friends and freedom...i was scarred severly from the way i was broguht up with schooling.i am totally against bottling your children up..its not protecting them...its hurting them

 

I'm so sorry your mom has so many problems. She really needs some serious help there. But please don't let it continue to effect your life. Get your GED it will make you feel so liberated. Then go get your license. You need to move on with your life. Get a job away from your dad. If you can, take your husband and go somewhere that the two of you can truely start your lives together uninfluenced by your mother's illhealth. You deserve better.

There are unfortunately some moms who do this to their children. This is not homeschooling though. It is keeping your children from growing up. The main purpose of a parent is to help your child grow, not to hinder them. My favorite lineabout homeschooling is, "Why do they call it homeschooling. We're never at home." I think this is the way it should be. Getting out in the world and really living. I had to buy a datebook to keep track of my son's busy schedule. He's involved in activities all the time. Kids need other kids. But they alsoneed other adults in their lives. My son's favorite person at homeschooling outings is another mom. He loves hanging out with her.

Kathi

 

ive tried everything to try and move away from her and everything else..and i dunno..she guilts me somehow calling me unappreciative, and getting a job away from my dad is showing to be very difficult...and also the driving won't happen because i am now thanks to her terified and have anxiety attacks being a PASSENGER let alone driving.

 

I'm sure most home schoolers mean well, but i hate to think that some would abuse it to maintain control over their children.


The goal is to help them become functioning independent adults, is it not?

 

wow sweet i know others who are in the same state as u, altho went to normal schools but whos parents (also just mom really) who completely screwed them up so theyre sfraid of everything life offers

as for the driving...try to learn... once your behind that whhel & in control instead of letting others drive u, i think u will break that fear cycle..

 

yes well i never knew what it was like to be a normal teenagr(although i was always quite eccentric anyways) but i would of liked to have been allowed to have friends and such...i thank you for your support immensely...im glad im not the only person who sses this as not a good way to use homeschooling...some people told me i was just ungrateful to my mother...although i never knew how this was a truth because i took care of her while she battled cancer and gave up most of my 9th and 10th grde years to help her out and make sure my little sister had proper schooling as well. thanks for your kind words

 

Sweet--you're 22.You have a long ways to go-if you're lucky.Do you want your life to continue as it is now?On and on and on--thru life with the mental problems of others(parents)affecting most or all that you do.I bet not.I think that the right thing for you or anyone to do ,is to get away--far away from people that harm you and keep you from growing and becoming a functioning adult.If anyone treats you like you have been treated,parents or otherwise--you CUT THEM LOOSE!Forgive them if you can--but GRAB CONTROL of your life NOW.Put your mind and body somewhere else where you can have respect for those around you and are given respect in return. Just my opinion--but from experience.Good luck.Better yet--make your own luck.scratcho-------

 

im sorry for what you went thru but i homeschool my children and its great. the thing people need to remember is if you are going to homeschool you have to have the time patience and understanding.i went to public and private schools and i'll tell you my children are further ahead than i was at there age, but i also am i stay at home mom who is devoted to my children. they come first everything else comes after

 

Its understandable that the situation with your mother has affected your life ... but there are things you can do to help yourself. Try reading the wonderful book, "Pulling Your Own Strings" by Dr. Wayne Dyer. (Most anything by Dyer is good reading, but this specific one seems most appropriate for your situation)

Regarding homeshooling ... all the homeshooling moms I knew when I was homeschooling my sons were devoted stay-at-home moms. We also saw to it that our children got together for holiday parties, field trips, P.E., etc...

My children also had a voice in their education and each eventually expressed a desire to experience attending public (government) school. My oldest graduated from public high school, my youngest returned to homeschooling his final year.

Both of my boys are now in college, doing great - one is majoring in architecture and the other in engineering.