I'm over masturbating privately, behind the back of my cold wife. I'm figuring on telling her nicely that I need some release, and I am going to take charge and have time now and then to get in the bedroom and masturbate to something horny, maybe a video of a couple masturbating each other, which is the step one goal. She can join me and help or watch TV. Why should the LL wife run the show?
Good luck with that; I don't know of many women who'd want to watch us jerk off - but I know a lot who'd not want to jerk a guy off and I've felt that if they don't want to be a part of it, fine - I really don't need her help to get myself off and I am a very old hand at doing just that and alone. I refuse to hide the fact that I masturbate from my wife; if she asks me what I'm doing in the bathroom, I'll tell her what I'm doing - and she'll go away and leave me the hell alone. I've been sitting and watching TV and stroking my dick and she'll see me doing it, frown with disapproval and... I don't give a fuck whether she approves or not because it's my dick and I pay the fucking rent, too. She knows she can watch or literally give me a hand but if she doesn't want to, it's no sweat off my back and the one time she did jerk me off, she looked like she would rather be working at the city dump on a hot summer day and who needs that attitude when you're trying to get off?
I'm sort of sneaking up on that. I'm trying to see if there is any mutual interest if it's that and no more. This marriage is a no sex no play zone. I'm clawing back some space for myself, and I'm trying the 'take her out on dates' scenario too. A bit like raising the dead.
I wish you genuine luck and success. I asked my lady out on a date, and she looked at me like I'd lost my mind...
It was our counsellor. We've been seeing her for marriage guidance. This is part of the talking about what we like and trying to make it happen for each other. Still a higher libido is needed on her part. Oh, hell. I need my old cock sucking friend again. All was well with the world then.
Well, here's progress. I opened up completely, about how I feel, and I want my space, specifically to have a sex life by myself, be it ever so humble to start. One needs to 'set the mood'. I like educational amateur porn, she does not. I told her I'd like her involved but only when she wants to. If she does the videos go off, she isn't into it more than a passing interest. I asked her boldly about a guy on here, my age who would like a friend to masturbate with and oral, nothing else. I found one on here, and she agreed. The rules...no anal, no women. I can handle that, pun intended. So I get to have the bedroom to myself a few times a week, to indulge my fantasies and get myself off. She will join me when she wants to, for stage two, mutual masturbation, but at her pace. Meanwhile we're going out on dates now and then to connect.
I would say that it's a start and the "no anal, no women" rule is what I'd call typical with women who are okay with their man having oral sex with another guy. Just don't be surprised if she never shows up for any stage two stuff.
Yes well, one step at a time. Tonight she is going to help me pull off slowly.That's a first. I've felt so shitty about all this, I have to have a win. I'm looking for a bi suck buddy and she's OK with that. So many full on gay guys on these hookup sites.
Yeah, you're likely to find more gay dudes on the sites and apps - you just have to be sure to specify that you're looking for a bi guy or "every" gay guy there will be knocking on your door.
I placed ads looking for a woman more than once before I found that too often men were aggressive and pushy in trying to convince me to try a guy. In the end, the ad said looking for a WOMAN, A FUCKING WOMAN. I ended up telling them to go fuck themselves. But at least some were decent and said they just tried in case, wished me luck
It is a bit of a put off, and I did hook up with one gay dude who was 'happy to not have anal'. Sure we sucked each other like our lives depended on it but there was coercion and eventually I felt I owed him, and, playing around rubbing up his butt cheeks he manoeuvered and up I went, up his ass. Then it was on until I thought, "hang on, I don't want to be here doing him" so I stopped.
Last night I did lay beside her, ran a video of young beautiful women fingering themselves in the forest, etc. That set the mood. She was there, half nude, no involvement at all but watched the girls with me. At least she was there as I pulled myself beautifully, and ran with pre come, and loved it to bits. I made it last through nearly an hour of lovely fingering, dildoing ladies. I haven't had such a hard-on for a while and she was OK with it and will join me again, maybe twice a week or at convenient times. I came hard and it was messy and amazing
I talked about getting my needs met, and she is OK with my having a male friend to get off with, no anal, and even mentioned having a female FWB. Lets see where this leads, if it leads anywhere.
He was a nice guy, a chef. He cooked terrific meals for me . Maybe not coercion, but it was certainly obvious that he liked that. I am the type who wants to please people and repay their friendship somehow. I never use people but try to give what they want in return. I told myself I wouldn't but I rubbed my dick a bit close to his nuts and his butt cheeks and he manoeuvered onto me and in it went. I did it more because he absolutely got his jollies in a big way. I knew he would eventually talk me into getting him up me, or trying. I had a reality check with myself and stopped seeing him. When he went on a holiday I never contacted him after he returned.
I have 20 20 vision in hindsight on this, and other times when I allowed my boundaries to be crossed in the heat of the moment.
