If more wives thought of it as a logical option

For me, it just happened that way. When she was done with sex, my wife thought that messing around with our old gay friend would satisfy my sexual needs. That worked for a long time. When we got together with another close couple, the wives both bragged how they were done with sex. It was my friends wife who (jokingly)suggested we go downstairs and take care of each other.
I had already availed myself of this option with our old friend. She told me that she told him that she wouldn't mind at all.
The joke suggestion turned into a reality. It was like NO HARM, NO FOUL. to both wives.
Would your wife think it was a good option?

 

I think Yes. The lack of sex and touch is driving me crazy. My wife has been in menopause hell for a long time. She is not a fan of oral sex, even receiving it. From a purely sexual standpoint having a buddy and the wife is good with it would be great. Solves the challenges.

It doesn’t solve the lack of intimacy though!

 

Yeah, it'd be nice if women could see the logic in this but for many of them, the thought of the hubby sleeping with men is an emotional reaction that logic doesn't stand much of a chance against. You can explain it all to her in concise, logical, terms and she can, in fact, agree with what you're saying - but. I'd hear a woman pitching a bitch because her man was sleeping with other men and come to find out that she was holding the pussy ransom or had some other reason for not having sex with him and I'd ask them, "If you're not going to fuck him, who's supposed to?" And they all pretty much answered, "No one is!" - but I could get them to admit that, logically, it made sense for him to seek out sex with someone else since she wasn't going to or, as I like to call it, they'd "Yeah, but..." me and the but was a very emotion-laden reason why she had the right to refuse him sex - and he had no right to get it elsewhere.

 

My wife has no clue how powerful a man’s sex drive is. Even though I have talked to her about it until I’m blue in the face. She has the notion that since She doesn’t want sex anymore I should just live with out it. She finally conceded that she doesn’t want to know how I satisfy myself.

 

Well, some women are of a mind that our sex drive shouldn't be that powerful and, yes, you can explain it and in exacting detail and... it goes right over their head because that's not how they're thinking about sex. Again, you can, if you tried hard enough, get a woman to understand this and agree that, logically, it makes sense that we'd turn to a guy for sex (and because, usually, it's just convenient to do so)... but. And here comes the emotional objections and the one thing that drives me crazy: Making something about me all about her.

 

Well, she used to be OK with me sucking with an older guy. It's been a while. I'd love to have a guy over to our house and use the spare room to at least suck each other off. She could, and probably would just watch TV. Ahh, but she won't entertain the idea under our roof. She got all bent out of shape when my step son brought a girlfriend home at night and gave it to her in the spare room. I was happy for Him but the wife was anything but.

 

We only did it with our friends who have been to our place many times before. My wife knew and encouraged it.
First time our friend came just from sucking me and I didn't do anything to him. She told me that I owed him and she invited him over and she wanted to watch. My other friend and his wife were of the same mindset. She was done with sex herself, but she was encouraging her husband to do the same.
The both agreed that it was the best solution for some sexual satisfaction and to shut us up.

 

My man's wife and mine both have accepted that he and I enjoy sucking each other off from time to time to satisfy each other's needs. My wife is finished with sex, but his wife still has sex with him and I from time to time. Neither of our wives are wanting to suck us off as often as we like to be sucked off, so they are glad we have each other to do so. Sucking each other off on occasion does not change how we feel and care about our wives. There was a time that he and I were sucking each other's cocks three times a week which our wives were not willing to do that often, so it was a "win-win" situation for all of us. He and I have slowed down to 2-3 times a month these days but having that option is a wonderful thing.

 

My wife told me that she is looking forward to boating season. While she is also done with sex herself, she can't wait for me to hook up with my friend on our boat so I won't be pestering her. Funny, that she is done with sex but still wants to see what Im up to. That make it something exciting that we can still share with. My friends wife is also done with sex and approves. She is the one who proposed the idea that we take care of each other.

 

Friends take care of friends!

 

I knew a 50-something couple, the wife approved and even liked it. As she said, she was happy not to have to give him head.