IM WONDERING HES A SWITCH HE LOVES WHEN I CAN BE DOMINAT WITH HIM BUT IN BED IS WERE I WANT HIM TO BE WITH ME HANDCUFFS WHIPS ECT BUT THE MOST I CAN GET IS HIM MAYBE PULLING MY HAIR AND A SPANK HERE AND THERE HE DOESNT CUM IF I GIVE HIM HEAD THATS ANOTHER POST I DONT KNOW WHAT IM DOING WRONG
He may be a sub and that's it. I have a friend who is a Dominatrix and will not be subservient to anybody. She will not switch at all. Her clients are all subs. I know if you raise a hand towards her she will beat the shit out of you. I love it and wouldn't even try. We do not practice BDSM with each other as I am not into it much at all. It may be your BF isn't either and can take being a sub but doesn't have it in him to switch. Best thing to do is talk with him outside the bedroom or, if you have one, dungeon. Ask him if he would be up to treating you as a sub with him being strongly dominate. Tell him what you want him to do the next you are playing. Then take his response and either live with it or find someone who will dominate you as you want. My friend has quite a few men whose wife won't dominate them but gladly let them get whipped and chained by my friend. Ask your BF and see where it goes.
thanks i appreciate the advice it means a lot to hear someone else’s thoughts on it he really loves being a sub i just question my self if i’m enough to be what he needs
I agree with a previous posting. He may be submissive in the bedroom, and not a switch. The thing is though that many people who are not Dominant by nature can roleplay it to please a partner who is submissive, as you are, in the bedroom. That you don't naturally gravitate to the same sexual activities or complementary roles isn't a red flag. However, if you are clear about what you want and need, and if he simply refuses or lacks the ability to do what you need him to do, then you have to rethink a life of monogamy with him. The next time you have sexual contact, talk him through what you need him to do for you. If he can't or won't do it, and if you're sure that your requests are completely clear, then he may not be a suitable life partner for you. A good sex life isn't about liking exactly the same things, but rather about communication, trust, and being willing to indulge each other's interests.
you have to talk to him.... a good communication is the key... some guys (female or male) are unable to be open with the partner ( this is my wife - i don't like to do "dirty thing" with / on her - she is the mother of my kids... and so on) and some people are unsure what to do when the partner likes to be dominated... knowledge is missing... but if you tell him what you like - you get what you need
