Me and my ex were together for about 2 years, after we broke up we became friends. Its been 5 years now, Emotionally I have no love for her as a girlfriend anymore just care as a friend. The problem is I use to love having sex with her coz we were so compatible. I am not trying to win her heart back plus we both agree we are better friends. Every time I see her I just think about how to get her into bed again. I want to over come this feeling because this sex urge is something i want to get out of my system by either doing it with her or getting over it. Thanks for your help
That's the part about being friends that bites. What do you do with the passion/lust part when the passion/love has changed? I suggest a new partner. It has to happen. Don't let the friendship with the ex, and the images of what was, block your path. And don't block hers, for that matter. If you are friendly but don't hang out that much, the new partner search will be easier. If you are hanging out, start setting time to be out "on the prowl" for a fling or a new love. I don't think getting over is always the best response. Integrate the lessons, and go forward, not over. A friend far wiser than I when it comes to navigating post-partner relationships suggests a year away from each other. We were talking about ex spouses, but he's right. It takes at least a year (and we decided that a year started after any divorce or custody was settled) to be able to remember the love with a lot less of the lust. I wish you both peace and new love.
that's why you don't become friends with your ex. or anyone of the opposite sex that you're attracted to.
This one is a piece of cake. Tell her you wanna fuck her. Either she's going to fuck you and you'll get it out of your system, or she ain't and she'll do all the overcoming for you. You're welcome.
Lol thanks for the suggestion but my ex already knows that i want to, in some ways she has shown interest too buy mentioning how we use to do it before. But she is very wish washy in this matter and always kinda acts tough to put my hopes down, she is good at it
Seems to me, the bottom line = that you just want her for Sex (= a bit of a slight on your character) As you indicate, there is No relationship future, then maybe it's time to cut all ties. Sex may have been Good with her, but Better with another (Maybe that is her opine?) Sex/Fuck buddies may be okay whilst you're young but sooner or later one grows up and will find Attraction, Sex and lasting Relationships are three different things
