So a little over a year ago I decided to try something with a guy. I had been curious and had lots of urges and just basically gave in. I really wanted to give a guy a blowjob. I found him on Craigslist and we exchanged some e-mails, arranged for him to come where I was and I went through with it. It was pretty great, I did feel a little.. guilty? or maybe slightly ashamed at first, but that was all the while thinking about how much I loved it (here's the thread I made about it). This was during a time when I was single. A month or so later my girlfriend and I got back together and have been since. From then until about 2-3 weeks ago I hadn't really thought about my experience or anything, kinda forgot about it for a long time actually. But the experience keeps coming up in my mind lately, I keep getting really turned on just thinking about it. Throughout every single day I get the urge to e-mail him and see if he wants to hook up again but I kinda chicken out I suppose. Shit. I had to stop writing this for a minute and now I lost my train of thought... well, anyway, I guess I'm looking to hear someone's thoughts on the situation, so let's hear it
Dude: It's your life. You are calling the shots. So, get your shit together, and do what you think is right. KD
Listen gang - every person in the world knows how to turn on 50% of the world sexually. Their own gender! Some folks stop at that - we call 'em gay, lesbian, Homosexual. Others have been taught that they shouldn't do that. They learn how to turn on the other half. Their opposite gender. We call them hetero. Then there' the ones who go both ways, as desired. Variable experiences. Wow! I call them smart enough to get it wherever they can. Ideally, everyone would let their daily feelings dictate what they look for at the moment. None would work with just one gender. Variety is the spice of life. The sex gods have created us to enjoy every sexual experience, from JO to 3somes. It is our choice, nobody else. For god's sake, enjoy life. It is miserable enough from time to time not to enjoy it when you can! Do what is turning you on at the moment, and don't tell anybody! Enjoy!!
If you took the trouble to read these (and other) boards, talk with the real people, and listen to their stories, you would quickly realize that many, many people do not know how to turn on ANYONE. They are struggling, trying, coping, paying for sex, suffering, whatever, but millions ARE still clueless about it. Much as I would love to agree with you, sexual orientation (as opposed to sexual skills) cannot be really learnt. Millions of gay dudes do find female sexual hardware totally unappealing to start with; and I am sure that you'll find loads of lesbian women who share the very same feeling for the male sexual equipment, too. That's how it is. Indeed, if coerced by force or by life cirsumstances, many humans would develop situational homosexuality, bisexuality or even heterosexuality, but if given a free choice in an open and free society, birds of a feather will invariably flock together... If you bother to check on the 'coming out' forum here, read the stories of anguish, suffering, fear and rejection, etc., you'll soon realize that sexual orientation has really nothing to do with any of our free "choices". No one will, in his sound mind, make a choice to get rejcted, thrown out of his home, lose his job, be discrimated against, disinherited, etc., if he feels that he really does not HAVE TO make such 'a choice' but that he could really make any other equally acceptable 'choice', enjoy his life, and skip on all that trouble and headache. Yup. I agree, we shoud all get going, and we should be all enjoying our lives... KD
KD, wonder what your problem is? Those comments of mine were the most uncreative, non imposing and weak that I have ever made - and you start screaming! Wow, dude, hear yourself. Note that I have posted 1300 times, so you might conclude (if you ever think before you yak!) that I have, many times, taken "the trouble to read these (and other) boards, talk with the real people, and listen to their stories." Sorry for your, "choice to get rejcted, thrown out of his home, lose his job, be discrimated against, disinherited, etc." Better luck in your next life!
