The not having kids isn’t really the issue, I just don’t understand why she constantly tells me we’re going to regret not having kids. We’ve had several conversations about her not saying that but she continues to. For context she brings it up every few weeks or anytime someone is pregnant in a movie or tv show. It’s starting to feel like she’s rubbing it in that I have no control over it, am I crazy for thinking this?
I am confused... you want kids but she doesn't? And then she states the opposite? Also wondering how old you two are, are you beyond the age when having kids is practical? Oy vey, such a problem! I'd want to get to the bottom of that issue also. Hope you two can manage to have a discussion and resolve the issue.
That’s correct, I want kids and she doesn’t and it’s something she decided after marriage. She says it’s because the state of the world. I am 37 she’s 34 and I wouldn’t want to start having kids after I’m 40 for practical reasons.
I dont wanna sound mean but why would anyone wanna subject innocent ones to this crappy world!! This is not a good place anymore.... I wouldnt ever bring anyone into this shithole!
I don't think either of you are being crazy or hurtful. You both know what you want, and stand by it. Although your wording is confusing.
This part is odd. You'd think that if she doesn't want kids, she'd say "we'll never regret not having kids". In other words, it's incongruous for her to both not want kids, yet to also think that not having kids would be something you'll regret. I wonder if you could try couples counseling, or possibly couples counseling phone apps. I've come across some people online who have recommended one called "lasting" (based on their experience), and "paired" (based on reviews). I have no personal experience with these though. The only way I can make sense of this is that all though she has said she doesn't want kids, she might be having second thoughts about it. It could be that you just need some good communication about this. It's possible she's becoming more open to the idea of having a baby with you. I don't think the options are just "your are crazy" or "she is being hurtful"
