i feel i need to be for my sanity right now. any ideas on things i can do to keep myself from getting together with yet another bad match?
Why gets in the way of finding a good match for you? I'd start the inquiry from there. And what is it that so distresses you in your current relationship?
i tend to get into relationship with men that i'm not really interested in. i need to learn to say "no thanks, lets just be friends" and if he gets hurt.. thats just to bad.. but i don't do that. and all the men i think i'd make a good match with.. i also think they're too good for me
insecurities? well.. i'm poor... and i have kids and my body is no longer super model perfect (not that it ever really was) i think i'm odd.. maybe i'm not .. i'm sorta shy.. hhmm
i just realised too.. i hate the whole flirting and the chase too.. maybe i should do that thread.. again
I have a similar issue... though I think I do it for them more than myself, almost like I crave being neglected? God its weird to think of it that way. I don't really think that I do, I mean, I love to be passionate with a woman who is as passionate as I. There is nothing more enjoyable. That is just so hard to find these days for some reason. I usually wind up in the same situation,where I don't like them that much, but I stay with them out of pity for them. More or less... I don't know how this would contribute to the answer you seek, but it was just my thoughts on the subject.
bingo! it's pity.. they like me so i give in and i'm with them.. even though i don't really feel love for them. i wanna feel love damn it! i almost have a few times.... almost!
you're never too old for casual sex, if someone gets really attracted to you or you get really attracted to them, just tell them it would really turn you on if they'd let you shit in their mouth.. find the next cack to hap on
gotta learn to love yourself more than that. you dont like who you are or respect yourself, thats how you end up with shitty matches. learning to love yourself completely isnt exactly easy though
Rubbish. You have beautiful children, a free spirit and you're a fun person. You're rich, you just have no wealth and that makes you desireable in and of itself. I had a nice possession free socialist woman. She got a taste of the finer things and it was more more more... No thanks. Do you know what it takes to maintain a supermodel figure? What man wants to deal with high maintenance??? You're not odd, you're not even eccentric. You dare to be different and that's hot. And you're not shy you're demure, and that's sexy! How about you spend some time to get comfortable with you, to accept and get past these things you seem to be hung up on. Then when someone you want comes along you WON'T talk yourself out of it because you think he's too good for you. Try it. It worked for me. I did that a while back and married a calendar model. Of course she turned out to be a greedy, money-grubbing (insert expletive) who was more interested in her status symbols than what was important in life... freedom and love. I'll find it again and so will you. Luck.
y'all are right. i am finding i really like me. i am a good person and all that goodness. i've been telling the negetive voices in my head to "shut the hell up!" and then i rememeber all the people that love me.. including myself! :grouphug:
