I think sex is embarrasing. HELP!?

I think some things about sex are embarrassing. the littlest things, too. I can't talk to my friends about it, cause my best friend just gets pissed at me because she's a big whore and i don't have any guy friends that i feel comfortable enough to ask.

Like, first, I'm a virgin, and i don't know what to do. the movements, basically all these questions are about me being afraid of getting judged or made fun of. What if i do something wrong? move the wrong way, do the wrong thing? Then there's noises. I feel embarrased to moan, like they'd look at me and be like 'what was that?' And the faces. i know people have 'o-faces' but i don't want a guy, or anyone for that matter, to see it cause it's kinda embarrassing. And all this worrying is making me refrain from sex all together. Anytime me and a guy start kissing and touching and stuff, i just don't get horny and i dont do anything. I either just do stuff to them and have them not touch me, or i just stop what's going on and not let it go further.

Are guys really this judgemental? Should i be embarrased about this stuff? Help me, please. 8[

 

no u shouldnt be embarrassed but these feelings are absolutely normal & every virgin feels them it just means that your probly not really ready yet, nothing wrong with that at all, just take your time get confy & when it feels right you wont even think about it

 

youre working yourself too much over it. itll flow naturally, or come owith time, no sense in worrying beyond safety (ie condoms)

though, being called a "big whore" wouldnt make me want to dispense good sex advice and especially less so if it was my best friend callin gme that...

 

Sounds like you should hold off on being sexually active for a little while. Eventually you'll meet a guy that you feel comfortable with and he'll make you horny and you'll be able to have good sex with him.

 

Honey, trust me, in the heat of the moment, "O-faces" look hotter than the freaking sun. Mine isn't particularly attractive on its own, I don't think. I'm loud as hell up until the actual orgasm; when it comes, I tense up and shiver and go completely silent. A lot of the time, I close my eyes and arch my back without realizing it. I'm sure that me squinting and tensing would be kind of funny any other time, but when he knows that it's because I'm experiencing mind-boggling pleasure, my boyfriend loves it.

And as for the sounds? I've never heard a guy say that he wanted his girl to be quieter, but I HAVE heard them say they want 'em louder. Trust me, as long as the moaning isn't fake and you don't start yelling another guy's name, they eat it up.

Oh, and just a hint? Calling your friend a "big whore" isn't going to endear you to anyone. Unless she's actually trolling men for money, my bets are that she's simply less uptight about sex than you are, not an actual prostitute. It's fine if you need time to get less embaressed about sex, but it's not good form to insult others while it happens.

 

you shouldnt be embarassed about anything. When the time comes you will know what to do. But you should wait for someone who you feel comfortable with because that helps a lot. When i first had sex i didnt know what i was doing and i didnt even feel comfortable with him. The things i do today in bed with my boyfriend are things i couldnt do with some random guy. I dont think you should just go out and have sex because your friend is a whore and you want to try it and see what it feels like. Thats what i first thought about but honestly i wish i would have waited. You might get really horny when your kissing or doing things to a guy but woudlnt you rather do it with someone you can trust? or someone that has some kind of feelings for you? I would just wait if i were you. Your only 15 so your very young. If i were you i would just smoke pot and do things that you wont be able to do when your older and just enjoy life while you can and then when the time comes for you to have sex and you think your ready then go for it.

 

yea.. i dont mean whore, like, prostitute. i mean whore, like... wants sex. I'M her go-to friend when she needs sex. 'oh, i need sex' 'i wanna have sex' 'dont touch me, i might get horny' 'dont stand up against me like that, i might have sex with you. im really horny' are the things that come out of her mouth recently. im just sick and tired of her, kinda. and her and the guy, she just took his virginity cause she was horny, will like, sit there and have play dry sex and im like 'umm.. interesting' like.. ugh. and then when i tell her how i feel.. and she tells me, like, what you guys are saying.. how its nothing to be embarrased... im go 'idk' cause, like, im not gonna drop my veiws, and my underwear, at the drop of a hat for her information.. and then she yells at me! she says 'what the fuck can i tell you, then either do it or dont do it.' it just kinda hurts

and i dont wanna go out and just have sex. i just wanna get these feelings over with. i have morals, i would never go out and just fuck anyone. i do want someone i can trust.. i just hate feeling like this. i feel like such a freak.

 

- i dont mean whore, like, prostitute. i mean whore, like... wants sex -


I don't understand... is there something wrong with a girl wanting sex?

 

no, theres not. but when you bitch to your frigid virgin friend about it and yell at her because she doesn't think the way you think (sex all the time).. thats a problem

 

exxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxactly
the problem isnt you, its your freind or should i say "friend" in quotes?

 

yeah ive come to realize that it is your friend whose causing you so much frustration. She doesnt even seem like a real friend. If i were you i would find a new friend. I wish i would have found new friends because then i wouldnt be in the situation that im in now.

 

i don't want to give up my friend. she's my best friend. that'd be a big step. 8[

 

dont let your friends make decisions for you, this is a choice you're gonna have to make on your own.
everyone is scared their first time it's a natural thing.
IMHO you arent ready for sex, but what do i kno, just do what feels right.

 

Virginity is the crown jewel of youth.

Don't give it away to the first bum that comes through the door.


x

 

idk where everyone is getting this idea that im just looking for someone to fuck. im NOT looking to have sex. at all. and i have morals. i would NEVER do that. im not some stupid slut excuse for life.. i just want to get over the fear. i just want to not be embarrased by it... and not think the way i do.. just for peace of mind. not to just go out and fuck random people

 

People who fuck around, and do it safely, are people who know what they want and go for it. They're not amoral. They're not "stupid slut excuses for life." I fucked a guy after three days. That doesn't make me a tramp, it makes me someone who's sexually confident enough to know that she enjoys a hard dick every once and awhile, and who won't let sexist, ridiculous terms like "slut" bandied about by other, insecure girls get in the way of her fun. :H

Of course, this is just my opinion. Perhaps you need to get friends as inexperienced and/or repressed as you are, and leave her to her fun. Or just agree to not talk with her about it.
I mean, really, if those are her views, if you talk with her about the subject, can you blame her for sharing them? Friends give input. Just because the input given was frustrating to you does not make her a bad friend, it makes her a friend with different ideals. If you say "Hey, I'm embaressed about sex, can you help me?," then of course she's going to say what she believes, that it ISN'T something to be embaressed about. It's time to just agree to disagree and realize that people who go out and have sex, even - GASP! -with random people are not "stupid sluts." They may have different morals than you, but that doesn't make those morals any less valuable.
That said, there's no reason to feel like a freak. Everyone was nervous about sex for the first time, and if they say that they weren't, they're likely lying.

 

ok, let me get this straight
you cant talk to your best friend, because when you ask her for advice and she give syou some, its not what you want to hear and you say as much, so she gets upset over telling you the same thing a few times over and you not wanting to hear it?
or at least, thats how its come across to me.

to be honest, perhaps you should look up a new person to talk to about relationships.

 

ok, you can enjoy your sex if you want. i was just saying that because its what im not. if it'll make you happy then im not 'a girl who likes a hard dick once in a while'. idk what i want from this thread. i just want to think differently. its not just that im nervous, just normally... i just dont want to be embarrased. and no, its NOT that i dont want to hear it. i hear it just fine.. but im sorry if i dont drop all my views on sex at the drop of a hat for her, or you. once you tell me something, im not gonna be like 'OK, FIND ME SOME GUY NOW' no. idk. this whole thing just makes me feel like shit.

 

how can you think sex is embarresing?
you've never even had sex

 

i know what it IS. i know what HAPPENS during it. i think its EMBARRASING. my god. all i want is help and reassurance of some sort and some of you are making fun of me and digressing and just... idk. its unbelieveable.