I Think I Need To Break It Off

so my name is Poli and i'm in a polyamourous relationship with two wonderful men but heres the problem lately one of my guys has been acting very possesive and very unwilling to share me and you cant have that in a healthy poly relationship if you can think of a way to get him to cool his shit that would be very appreciated because id rather not break up with him

 

Honey, you can't change a man. I think you know what you need to do.

 

^ Agreed!

If a guy gets possessive in a ployamourous relationship, he's probably not okay with the poly part of the relationship. He's just not ready for it. If he wants a steady girl, let him have a steady girl.

 

I think some people get into polyamorous relationships because they really like someone and would do anything to have them, not because they are actually poyamorous. Is he seeing other people or is it just you who does that?

I would sit him down and have a talk about how that isn't what you signed up for. You can probably gauge what to do by his reaction. If he stays calm and realizes what he is doing wrong you can hopefully move on from this, but if he argues with you or makes excuses for his behaviour, then you know what you need to do.

 

im the one who does it neither of my guys are with other girls and ya unfortunantly your advice is probably very good

 

It doesn't sound like you are dating other polyamorous people, which is where the trouble is arising. I would consider yourself lucky that both guys aren't acting like that.

Finding people who are truly poly can be hard though...

 

Why not check online? There are a lot of fora and sites out there to get in touch with polyamorous people such as yourself.

Being in an open marriage, I know how hard it is to find poly peeople who actually mean it. But once you find them, they're friends for life.

 

Sounds a lot like monogamy

 

Just find a poly girl to add to the mix, that'll shut them up

 

Personally when directed at me anyway, i prefer the term slut

Polyamorous sounds like a horny parrot

 

Polly Amorous is a name. Amorous is what you are. Can't tell the difference between a jackass and a unicorn