I Should Dump This Guy Shouldn't I?

I've been divorced for a while now and happily been dating and sampling what is on offer. I didn't want relationship after being in one for so long, I wanted to enjoy being single (with a bit of fun). However I kind of fell into a relationship with a guy I have known for a long time and it has been a lot of fun. The reason we know is each other is actually through my ex. My ex and I had an open marriage and indulged from time to tjme in our local swinging scene, current guy is someone we met through this scene and is obviously on the same wavelength.
Since we have been "together" we have had some of the best sex I have ever had and we have partaken in swinging a few times and been fairly open about other sexual exploits which have happened, so I thought we were on the same page. FYI - I make it clear to partners that I will never want a closed relationship unless we have children and I don't want them for a long time anyway. I am always very up front when something starts up and goes to more than 3-4 dates.

Last night we had a big bust up. We had been out for the evening, just the two of us, and things got intimate once we got in. Often we will talk about things which have happened in our group scenarios or our plans to fuck other couples at the weekend and it will get us really excited but this time I started excitedly chatting about this gorgeous red head I know he wants to screw and be pushed me away and said "will the slut behaviour ever stop? I love YOU, you've changed me, I just want you."

I will admit that I am in love with him, although last night was the first time either of us had mentioned love. However I'm not sure if I can continue in a relationship with someone who doesn't want to have the same kind of open relationships as I do, or even just continue with it and resent me and what we are doing.

I suppose I just wanted to ask what you guys think? Would you continue with this and modify your behaviour? Had he had plenty of advance warning of what I am like given he has known me for 8 years and all that time I have been into the same scene and style of relationship?

I would love your advice dear free love folk.

 

What do you need answered?

Get busy with the redhead

 

You're right, I think I just needed to hear it. Bloody love coming round here and fucking things up!

 

That's what he said

 

I think the swing lifestyle is just not something many people can live. If you like that lifestyle and do not want to be in a relationship then you would probably need to not be with any one person for too long. People naturally become emotionally attached to each other especially when things seem to get exclusive or seem that way to one of the people involved.
Being up front is great but you also have to be sure the other person isn't getting too emotionally attached. Letting this guy go is probably the best so as not to hurt him. I never say never as I was in the lifestyle for a few years. I am currently very happily married and do not wish to share my wife with anyone. So get your ya ya's out for as long as you want just never say never to another relationship. I am very glad that I never said never.

 

The wild slut thing never stops it just runs out of busines, usually with its male raising children that do not resemble it. The swinger at 40 is a jaded, serpent of a thing that spends it's time "mavening" around still trying to sell a horse that's been dead for years and assure it's self that others are just as miserable or will be when theyre done.
Related to a couple. Still trying to pull of that "my posessions make me better aren't you jealous?" and the how confident they are in their object-ifying beastliness

 

Or......

Its the ones that try.stick with the one partner too long that end up cranky, bitchy and miserable