ive been dating this girl for a while now, we are in love its wonderful. she has had sex 3 times before we started dating and said it hurt and the third time was ok but no orgasm just 15 mins or so of sex with nothing amazing for her. now ive given her a few orgasms orally and with my fingers, real orgasms, we've talked about them. but im worried about the sex, ive had sex a FEW times im NO sex god.. if she hasnt had an orgasm in 15 mins of sex with another guy i have no idea how im going to be able to give her one.. i know she likes me SOO much more then she liked the others she had sex with. i know shes more attracted to me and i know if i do fail and not give her an orgasm she will understand. im just afraid of being label as the same as the other guys.. i mean she tells me how bad they are, how sex was terrible, how she now thinks sex is overrated!! i need to crush this mindset shes in by giving her an amazing sexual intercourse expireince but im worried ill fail and she will see me as she sees the other guys that have failed. what can i do? im pretty nervious
your worrying aout 15 mins of not getting an orgasm!!!! try waiting a lifetime, well 25 yrs with the same guy and never getting one from him then you got problems mate
Just make sure that you get her "really" warmed up with oral, then just fuck like there is no tomorrow. Guaranteed! =]
Little tip for ya, lots of foreplay, really get her in the mood, and take your time. Don't be afraid to talk ask her what feels good and what doesen't. Also this my help a bit as well, play with her clit while you are having intercourse, sometimes the combo of vaginal and clitoral stimulation will be what it takes to bring her to orgasm. Hope this helps.
Take your time and don't freak out... you will not get anything accomplished if you keep thinking all this stuff in the back of your head... Just try things and do what she reacts positively to....
Sorry for the newbie tangent, but how do you suggest stimulating the clitoris while you're busy having intercourse and probably on top of her and covering her clitoris area heavily with your abdomen? I found that to be pretty difficult to do myself.
The absolute best thing you can do, is not worry if you're pleasing her while you fuck her. (that came out sort of the wrong way) What I mean is, it should be important to you however if you're getting sick over it while you're fucking you're gonna have trouble. Just do what comes naturally and it'll come.
yikes. i think it's more than 30% of women can't get have an orgasm through just plain intercourse, and the women that can may have used clitoral stimulation through grinding or something. you're getting too stressed over something you shouldn't be getting stressed over. a women knows her body better than anyone else. ask her what gets her to have an orgasm during intercourse. rub her clit while banging her. or put a pillow under her but so the thrusting is pointed more upwards. if she has a prominent g-spot, that might just drive her nuts along with clitoral stimulation.
