I need more but he doesn't seem to want it

I've been with my partner for 12 years and I love him very much.
When we first got together, it was the usual honeymoon period but it's now waned down to almost nothing. It would be literally nothing if I never initiated.
When we do, it's awesome and I almost always orgasm (in saying that, I'm not difficult in that regard) however he has anxiety about not lasting long enough, and as a result will almost never make the first move.
He's a bit of a vanilla slice and I love sex and love to be dominated but it's a very hard conversation to have as he's very shy about it.
Anyone have any suggestions?
I have no reason at all to suspect him of cheating so I'd rather no comments suggesting that that may be the case.

 

I'd say it's time to have a very serious conversation and being shy about it isn't going to help the situation.

 

I’d say just talk to him. Communication is key in any relationship. If you don’t let him know what you want and how he does then it can definitely wind down to nothing. Hope this helps some.

 

Like the others said. Communicate suggest toys. I loved watching my woman use her various toys. And often got me ready for round 2.

 

Absolutely. Communication communication communication! Maybe start off slow, you dont want him to feel attacked or insecure. Most men will not respond well there. But ask him about your sex life, ask him how he things its going. Take a genuine interest in what he is saying and why, do this as you start a bottle of wine and do something you enjoy doing together. Make it casual and let the conversation flow. It may take a few times but you eventually will see an opportunity to tell him you would like to try more. Not that you are unsatisfied but you just have some curiosities, fantasizes and or desires. You want him to hear his and want him to be apart of yours. Again take it slow, male echoes are a fragile place but we are normally down for whatever when stroked properly lol

 

You’ve gone this far together that the first thought is that it’s worth working on the relationship. Righty so.
Getting him to open up without feeling cornered can be tricky for what I read, but there has to be a way. Giving a pointer but guilty of not having suggestions