Around this time last year, or so, I started to hang around this girl. We met in school, but never seen each other in school - I am a year ahead of her and its a huge school. We became best of friends... I think you can guess where this is going, but anyway... I fell in love with her - when I say love, I mean the closest thing my 16 year old heart has ever came to love. I never thought, ever, that she could have loved me back, so I grew happy with the idea of us being friends. We were inseperable. Even though I secretley wanted to ravish her... Then, she told me she loved me. In her own words - 'I think, I think I love you'. Part of me knew that. Part of me noticed the way she changed, talked, acted, when around me. She liked me as much as I liked her... But when it came to the crunch, when I tried to kiss her, when I tried to hold her, when I tried, she felt uncomfortable. She backed away, scared. This went on for months - Me trying to get closed to her. But, she being really uncomfortable. All of 2007, in-fact. Even though we're both 16, neither of us have has a real relationship before. She just won't be in a relationship me, I don't know why? She's explained to me why she's uncomfortable, and its like this with ALL guys, not just me, so its not just me she's uncomfortable with... This hasn't spoiled our friendship - We're still best, best friends. But when your a teenage boy, your mind focuses on sex rather than whats right or wrong... I want to stop waiting around for her to make a decision. Sure, I'm head over heels but still, I either want to be in lovd and in a relationship, or, best friends and not in love. I don't know what to do? I know I sound a little pathetic, but.... I need an opinion. An outsiders opinion. On her, me and what I should do? Should I give up trying and try get over my best friend? or Try to make her feel comfortable? Or something else? Thanks, LottsaSolitude.
there is nothing you can sir... she needs to get over her insecurities. this a new thing for her and she's prolly scared. i say just be friends and when she is ready you'll know she will get closer on her own and hopefully you'll still want to be with her. untill then you can either move on or wait. but remember the best things are worth waiting for...
OK. I'm an old fart, but it's my birthday so I feel entitled. Your text says you are 16, your profile says 18. In either case, a lot of people are reading this and sympathising while smiling and remembering the pain of teenage romace. The best advice that I can give you is that this is an opportunity to learn the value of women as friends. Keep her as your best friend and direct your heart towards another woman. Good Luck!
I liked the idea of this forum and was afraid if I was under 18 they wouldn't let me be a member I should have read the terms... But yeah. Two different opinions though!
