I may have inadvertently impregnated my sisters best friend.

Sorry if this is in the wrong section. I really feel like I have to talk about this, even though in may change some of your views about me. Let me start by saying my sisters friend is significantly older than me. When I was a kid, they were already teenagers. Today, I am 23 and she is 32.

Okay so, I knew she was married but she kind of played it off like they were "Getting divorced," "Seeing other people" and, she "Wasn't happy with him." We were flirting all night, made out and, then went into a bedroom. Anyway we fucked raw for about 4 hours, but I didn't cum inside of her. In the following days her husband took a plane down and they ended up getting back together. (Which I had a feeling is what was going to happen.)

Anyway, so it's been right around two months now, and she found out she is pregnant. I am (supposibly) the only person she slept with unprotected while she and her husband were split. But she doesn't want to tell her husband that there's a chance that it isn't his.. In fact, she didn't even call and tell me, my sister did.

So yeah, I fucked up!!! It'll be months or even years before I find out what's going on with it. But it's already stressing me out. I'm just praying it's her husbands baby!! It's not that I don't want a kid, because I would like to be a daddy one day, but not in a situation like this!! It's really a mess...

 

If you did not release any sperm inside of her, then you have nothing to worry about. Then again, I highly doubt you could remember every detail of the four hours.

I have no qualms in stating that you were retarded to not use protection. For someone who appears to be so smart, you certainly made a very stupid, possibly life altering, decision.

 

Having sex without protection is not inadvertent. It's needlessly negligent.

 

I hate to piss on your chips but it is possible for sperm to be emitted at any point during sex not just the finale.

 

:juggle: Keep going, I'm listening..

 

I hope you have a good paying job

 

The baby might not even be mine. Probability would suggest that it's her husbands. We're talking a one night stand as opposed to having sex every night.

 

That is the usual statement made by every ignorant teenager who becomes pregnant. It was my first time. It only takes one time to become pregnant.

 

thats sucks dude

 

Yeah it does. Oh well, I'm not going to know for sure until it's born and the mother allows for a DNA test to be done. I'm just wondering how long that will take, what with her husband and all.

 

Is the husband a good dad? If so, it might be better for all (if husband and wife work out their differences) for him to never know about you.

 

Yeah. I would consider yourself lucky that she hasn't contacted you personally!
The hardest part will be knowing there is a part of you out there that you can't have... UNLESS, you want to be with the kid. Then you have every right to! That's what I would do if I was you, take responsibility for the child!!! It's your choice and I think everyone would understand either way! But you really should consider getting to know your child, even if it means telling her husband that you slept with his wife! I mean, fuck that guy's feelings, you gotta think about yourself and the baby!

 

Yeah they already have kids together and stuff. My sister says they "might be splitting up. But honestly, my sister is a liar and a drama queen, so I wouldn't be the least bit surprised if that was fabricated. She cheated on him with a different guy and he found out, and still took her back. I really don't think they're "slowly divorcing," or anything, because they still live together!?

Anyway, I feel like what's done is done. Yet, I still hope things turn out for the best. The ideal situation is it being her husbands kid. But I'm hoping for any variation on that. If they stay together and have "another kid," I wont have to deal with any of this drama.

 

If there is one thing I have learned, and I am a feminist, it is that the double standard whereby the man has to support the child when he does not want to whereby the woman's right to have an abortion because she does not want to take responsibility in caring for a child is absolutely unfair. If the woman can shirk her responsibility, then so can the man.

 

Well yeah I've thought of this too. I would want to get to know my child if I knew he/she was mine. But I'm wondering if this girl is going to ever tell me that it may be mine. But idk what I could really do about it. They go from NY and back and I only have her number. I've never even met him, or their kids.

Overall, it would be a really bad situation.

 

My gut tells me it's yours so get a good job, stop substance use if you use any, and get tested.

Brace for any one of the following scenarios:

1. She aborts the kid. Your firstborn will never know you. Don't lose it mentally.

2. She has the kid and with time the issue ripens and surfaces overtime. While you're on the sidelines.

Regardless I'd say a prayer to God in this case for guidance and forgiveness both for you and your potential child. But I recognize you may not be Christian or like any faith.

 

You forgot scenario #3.
Your own segment on:

 

That really sucks dude, Ya better hang on tight I have a feeling it is gunna be a long tuff ride 4 u, sorry

 

Awe hell no bro. What the hell man... First off I hope that you are not the father of that baby. You're young man have a whole life ahead of you. You have some options and your not alone in this.