I Lost My Daddy Tonight

Discussion in 'Random Thoughts' started by bluedragonfly, Aug 23, 2011.

  1. bluedragonfly

    bluedragonfly Member

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    My Dad and brother headed up to Chicago to see a Cubs game on Saturday. They stayed two hours out of the city. On Sunday my Dad woke up really sick. He was throwing up the entire trip into Chicago. They ended up not going to the game and just staying in the hotel. They came home Monday and by Monday night he wasn't feeling any better and went to the ER with my Mom.

    They decided to keep him overnight because he was severely dehydrated. We thought he would be coming home around 4 today and they decided to keep him another night.

    My boyfriend and I went to see him from about 6:30-8. I told him I loved him and goodbye. I had no idea this would be the last time I would ever speak to my Daddy.

    My boyfriend left my house around 9:15 and about 15 minutes later he came back... I thought it was strange but he said my Mom had called and asked him to come back and stay with me because she was going to be awhile longer.

    She got home about a half hour later and told me that he was gone. I can't even explain my reaction. There was a ton of screaming and crying and more screaming.

    My two best friends came over and my Mom's friends came over as well. Lots of hugs and tears and now here I am about to go to bed with my Momma..

    I'm still in shock. I had the best Dad in the world. I was adopted right after I was born and I couldn't have possibly gotten better parents. I love them both so much. I just cannot believe this is happening to us.

    Whatever happened to him to cause this... we still don't know. He was a pretty healthy 57 year old man.

    He was my best friend.

    Please send your thoughts and prayers to my family. Especially to my sweet Momma..
     
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  3. SpacemanSpiff

    SpacemanSpiff Visitor

    shitty shit shit

    sorry for the crap you are going through
     
  4. Indy Hippy

    Indy Hippy Zen & Bearded

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    sorry to hear that chicka, I'll keep ya in my thoughts. My adopted mom just up n' died of cancer about 4 months ago so I kinda know how it feels. If ya need to talk just hit me up sometime
     
  5. Death

    Death Grim Reaper Lifetime Supporter

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    im sorry that is very rough when it's so unexpected like that.
     
  6. SpacemanSpiff

    SpacemanSpiff Visitor

    at least his last days were spent with your brother ....and you and mom got to visit

    sometimes people dont get that chance
     
  7. yarapario

    yarapario Village Elder

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    Blue Dragonfly I'll keep you and your family's feelings close and send good energy and love your way. Be kind and strong for each other now. Though we are strangers, it still matters when someone else is hurting.
     
  8. Kinky Ramona

    Kinky Ramona Back by popular demand!

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    Oh my heart is absolutely breaking for you. My dad is my rock and I fell to pieces when he had to have shoulder surgery, losing him for good is one of my biggest fears. :( :( :( I am so sorry to hear that, I wish there was something more I could say to ease your heartache.
     
  9. samson

    samson Hepcat

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    you poor thing, that is so sad - for sure we will be keeping you in our thoughts at this time. Feel free to catch me if you want someone to talk to, or just anything.

    hugs
     
  10. Lynnbrown

    Lynnbrown Firecracker

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    same here bluedragon...just so, so sorry for you and your family, tho' saying that means so little.
    I will say that you can always look back and know that you, your family and your dad had some excellent last days, last times together.
    My thoughts and prayers will surely go to you and your's...may all y'all somehow feel comfort in the love you obviously shared and still share.
     
  11. Joshua Tree

    Joshua Tree Remain In Light

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    very sorry about your loss, I hope you and your family can console each other in your grief
     
  12. stacy lulu

    stacy lulu yeeeaah buddy

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    Im sorry tohear about that. hes always with you, no matter what. ill keep you in my prayers. lots of ((((love))))
     
  13. TAZER-69

    TAZER-69 Listen To Your Heart! Lifetime Supporter

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    So sorry to hear of your loss. I will be praying for all of you. :(
     
  14. SunLion

    SunLion Lifetime Supporter Lifetime Supporter

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    I'm so sorry for this terrible loss. Life is so painfully short. My heart truly goes out to you.
     
  15. Regular Guy

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    I feel sorry for your loss. I lost my mom (dies of cancer) when i was 19 so i kinda know how it feels. Atleast i got time to prepare for it but you didn't and that must hurt like hell. I hope you have enough friends around you to support you and your family in these times.
     
  16. jimmyjoe1

    jimmyjoe1 toker Lifetime Supporter

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    I am sorry for your loss:(
     
  17. Fingermouse

    Fingermouse Helicase

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    :grouphug:
     
  18. Keenman

    Keenman Senior Member

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    I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my thoughts.
     
  19. lovelyxmalia

    lovelyxmalia Banana Hammock Lifetime Supporter

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    I know how you feel. I lost my dad in November.

    You are in my thoughts and prayers. Someday, life will get better and you will find the good in this awful situation.

    Much love :)
     
  20. bluedragonfly

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    Thank you all so much for your support and thoughts. It means a lot to me. Right now I'm really struggling with my medication. I had to give all my pills (my lortabs, sleeping pills, and xanax) to my Mom so she can moderate what I take and how often. I wouldn't ever take enough to hurt myself, but it's a nice thought to just sleep all the time. I can't do that though, I have to be there for my Mom and brother.

    My heart goes out to all of you who have been through the same thing.. It's so devastating and certainly the hardest thing I've ever been through.

    My friends are being amazing and so is my boyfriend. My boyfriend is taking me to a doctors appointment after school and I'm thinking it's really going to help. It's been scheduled for awhile and if it was any other doctor I'd cancel it.. but it's my psychiatrist so I think I should go.

    Thanks again you guys, like I said, it means a lot.
     
  21. Shivaya

    Shivaya Y'a rien de trop beau pour la classe ouvrière.

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    My thoughts are with you and your family <3
     
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