i know i'm going to lose it soon.

i'm 18 (girl) and a senior in high school, about to graduate, and a virgin. i met my boyfriend in september of this year and we 'talked' for awhile without dating but agreed on not seeing or doing things with other people. then last month we decided to be offical. it's only been like three weeks but i already know i'm in love with him. i've never met anyone like him and i've dated a lot of guys. i can hang out with him stoned, drunk, or sober. we always have fun. things are sort of physical but not really. there's been a lot of over the top of the clothes touching and him touching my boobs, blah blah. he's tried to take it further (going to finger me) but i've stopped him because i wasn't really ready or prepared (didnt really touch up down there) i guess i'm worried about what he'll think.. should i shave all of it off? or just bikini wax it? i've done both before so my skin doesnt get irritated. i guess its just an opinion on what he likes. i barely ever masturbate, i dont know why. i've been fingered once even then i wasnt prepared and i was really really fucking drunk. it wasnt even enjoyable. i want to have sex with my boyfriend too and we've come close because i am almost always drunk or high and i just want him. i'm just not comfortable with my body.. i'm 5'1 and 125 pounds. i know i'm not fat but im not the skinniest girl in the world. i have c cup boobs but i hate them, i think they're horribly ugly. i was thinking of getting in shape so that when we do have sex i can be proud of my body, not some nervous lights off shit. .. comments?

 

i think your body sounds fine? 5 1 and 125 with c boobs is pretty much what im asking for. (i dont prefer skinny or overweight girls, i like em just in between) so i dont know why you are so insecure about yourself. Guys love your boobs because....well there boobs. Theres no such thing as ugly boobs in guys eyes. Dim the lights. Just like in the movies lol it is a nice lighting environment for sex.

I think you should just take things slow, make sure your comfortable and relaxed, open to communication and make sure you focus on enjoying him have sex with you. Dont focus so much on you pleasing him, and be safe. Your first time should be an experimental experiment so to speak. Then after a few times you can start really enjoying sex.

 

Talk to him about your insecurities. He's obviously attracted to you, and appears to be an understanding, personable fellow by your description. Sounds like the ideal circumstance to lose your virginity.


Assuming you're planning to use protection, there is nothing I see that's objectionable. It's mutual, it's understanding. You're not too young.

Allow yourself to enjoy the experience. If you already have an emotional connection with your partner, it can be a beautiful and rewarding experience indeed. Here's wishing you good times!

 

Exactly. Don't do anything, allow it to happen. Now I'm wishing I was in your situation...yum.

 

If you want to get in shape just do HIIT 15 minutes a day, every day.

 

1st off..quite the drinkin..ya dont wanna be drunk and sloppy your 1st time..2nd, your body ids beautiful, stop worrying about it and start enjoying it
maybe you should masterbate? learn to enjoy your body and its beuty?
and fuck shaving..be confortable any way you feel confy, natural, shaved whatever..why would u feel like you nered to shave just cause some porn star sluts do? sure it can be sexy, but so is natural, and these days natural is more exotic then shaved since everyone seems to be jumping on the shaved bandwagon..

 

^^^Completely agree w/ eagle on EVERYTHING he said.

 

So do I. Very sound advice.

Why do you think your boobs are ugly? Believe me, no guy thinks boobs are ugly to my knowledge. They sound like perfect sized boobs.

Have you ever asked one of your friends what she thought about your boobs? It would have to be a particularly good friend who's opinion you valued, and who would not be afraid of hurting you but would still give an honest opinion.

I want to tell you to take a picture of yourself and let us see. I know you probably won't, as you might not want to hear negative opinions, and you would have to put them somewhere that we could see them, and they probably won't allow that here. However, there is a bit of security in posting anonomously. If you do take a pic, don't include your face or any background that would identify it as you.

You could take a pic of yourself and add it to pics of some other pics of boobs, and don't tell anyone who's is who's. You wouldn't even have to post it on line. Just show them to your friends and get their opinions. Say you're doing a study for something and wanted to get people's opinions on different shapes. Say you're doing research on implants and wanted to know whether people thought they were needed or not on these patients. Throw yours into the mix.

Maybe this sounds stupid.

 

we do a lot of dry stuff, i just havent let him get FULL access below the waist. i really enjoy what he does though but i get insecure about so many bogus things like.. what if i'm too wet? i hate my boobs because i think my nipples are too big or something, i dont know and i think my boobs period are too big. i wish i was thinner with smaller boobs. i guess i can't be comfortable with him though unless i'm comfortable with myself.

 

Don't worry about being too wet because it's a good thing. Don't worry about your boobs because he will love you just the way you are. It's all good just take a deep breath.

 

sure some guys like it shaved, some dont mind it natural. I dont like hair down there. I have never heard a guy say that he doesnt like it shaved. So i would be safe and shave.

 

i gave my first blow job last night! and today i gave him two orgasms. :-D

 

Congrats, lady I don't know how about you, but to me - give my man orgasm is even better feeling than having my own one .. not always but I really love get him done

 

Ah, the eternal question - to shave or not to shave?
My advice is: ask him! Talk to him, see if there's anything he'd prefer or if he really doesn't mind either way.
Me, I'm not overly fussed as long as it's not so much of a jungle you can't bloody find anything (foreplay, yes. Toothpicks, no).

And men really don't mind about your breasts - they're there, they're yours, that's all he's concerned with, I'm sure. 5'1 125 pounds is a wonderful shape to be in. Understand that if he loves you, and is willing to go "all the way", he finds your body attractive. Most men don't like stick thin Size Zeros, that's just a tabloid phenomenon and those women will have MAJOR troubles down the road (think osteoporosis, anorexia etc).

 

god i love him so much. everything's going so well. i went the safe route and shaved and he seemed to be cool with it when he fingered me. and holy shit, i was in heaven. i really am ready now and i'm not even nervous! i'm so excited just to be with him and really connect. i've never been in love before this and it's real, i can feel it. i've never been comfortable with anyone physically before him. i can't wait!

 

good for you. glad to know you shaved a little. some hair isnt bad but when it gets too bushy there is nothing worse then picking out the hair in your mouth.

 

well i did it, and it was perfect! it didn't even hurt either, so i don't know why there's this big hype that it does..

 

i hate this motherfucker now

 

Lol ur insane.

 

damn, lol, what happened?