Edited: What would you do in the event that after finding yourself to be a lesbian for YEARS you meet a boy? What would you do if you were completely pining over him for days the first time you ever met him? Or how about if you don't know when or IF you'll ever see him again? How would you get a hold of him without seeming psychotic for tracking down his number or something? After figuring out how to get in touch with him and not seeming psycho, what would you say to him? Like my post is titled, I have no game so how would you go about actually getting him interested? I've never been good at going after people...I'm terrible actually. I want to SEE him, not just talk on the phone, how do I make that idea fly with him? I've only met him a few times and talked to him very little so it's all very complicated and delicate. Not to mention we both have no driveable transportation right now. What would you do in my position? I just need a little push...
Does he go to the same school as you? Cuz if he does, then that's where you should start. Calling him immediately would make it seem like you were stalking him or something.
Nope, he goes to a different school...and I don't know if or when I'll see him next because I only see him when my aunt and uncle get together with their friends (his parents) and I happen to tag along. But they got in a massive fight and my aunt really dislikes those friends so I have no idea if I'll actually be able to tag along anymore if they don't ever go back. That's another reason I was needing advice on how to get a hold of him.
Well it sounds like you got yourself a bit mixed up. Firstly you need to stop asking so many questions because then you will become confused...trust me! hehe anyways, if this boy knows your a lesbian for a start and yet you seem to like him, then doesn't that make you bi-sexual? Well the point is, if you really want to see him then you should tell him the next time you tell him. If you can't wait that long then there is no harm in ringing him surely? Your not stalking him by all means you just want to see him again which is understandable if you like! If you think you two may be able to have a relationship together then whats the harm in trying? My advice is, try to get his mobile number because even though its not always the best way, texting can help massively in these situations. Because you don't want to stalk him yet you want him to know your interested. At first don't be up front like, "oh by the way, i really like you", just take your time, meet up with him a few times, get to know each other better. Its the only real way you can get him interested is by letting him get to know you. If he was a decent guy then he would give the chance no matter what, to give you a chance to see each other. As for transport, when i was young i always had the same problem, as with everyone else in this world. Sometimes it can affect relationships but thats why they invented things like phones, mobiles, internet etc. But still, i am sure if you explained to your parents they wouldn't mind taking you a couple of places a week. If not, use public transport or ask friends for lifts. It may seem hard now, but as you get older...it will get easier!
Just go up to him and give him your number. Don't act whacked and all emotional. That's scary. Just ask him to call you for coffee somewhere. Then if he does, you'll get a bit more time to decide if you all have a spark. There's no such thing as "game." That's just about getting someone into bed. Real relationships are based on not having any game at all but just hanging out together because you both like it. No game is the best game.
He doesn't know about me being into girls. I'd rather not catagorize myself as anything, I figure I am me and that's good enough...I just used lesbian as a short way of saying "I've only been into girls and only girls for the past 3+ years and thought it was going to stay like that" I'd rather not say that I'm bisexual to just make an exception for ONE guy (and who knows if that'd even be sexually...that's still hard to see) but still have a HUGE attraction for females. But obviously having a male in the picture isn't what any hardcore lesbian would do so I'll just leave a blank for my sexuality, I don't think it really matters. Like who you like, love who you love. Oh my, me act whacked and emotional? That doesn't happen. I'm never nervous around people...I've been so calm and collected around this guy that I'm pretty sure he doesn't even know I have any interest in him. Screwed up there... But anyway, me being the "non-going after people" person that I am, never thought of not being all up front and flaunting my "Hey I really like you!" I don't know, I just thought tracking down his number from the phone book would seem a bit stalkerish, but the way you guys put it doesn't seem that way. I'm just used to having people come to me (not to sound arrogant though), so this is all quite new to me. I'm not the aggressive type. But yes, I can give him a ring surely...I just figured I better do it soon rather than wait a month to see IF I ever see him again (who knows when it'll be) so I'd rather get a hold of him before he gets interested in someone else. I've played the back up before and I'm not up for it this time.
