boyfriend's gone treeplanting for 3 months. when he lived here, we lived separately.. he lived in a basement suite and i lived with my parents. now he has moved out of his place and i moved in there with a girlfriend for the summer... we both wanted to try living on our own and the rent is cheap because we're friends with the landlord and such, but now i'm not sure it was such a good move... BEing there, at "his" house..(my house now).. makes me miss him so much. It's killing me. We already paid for 3 months rent and we've begun doing renovations to the place, like painting and fixing up and all that.. so i can't exactly change my mind now and i don't know what to do. I was SOO excited to be moving in there but that was before it sunk in that I'd be there alone, without him waking up next to me every day.. because i used to spend the night there a lot.. i guess i spent mostly all my time there. now it's my house and all it does is remind me of him. he's coming back in 3 months but only for a few weeks before he leaves to travel.. uggh I feel like I have this huge lump in my throat and I just need to cry and cry and cry... what can i do? please help me.. i feel so lonely.. so sad.. i miss him so much.... ugggghhh this hurts
what should you do? deal with it. that sounds insensitive but i highly doubt moving some where else would really make you miss him less.
run it thru your mind that your fixing it up for the two of you for when he returns, all the changes your making, do it for the two of you, to make it kinda "YOURS AND HIS PLACE". Also hold the memories as a foundness rather than the thought of being apart.
yeah, making it into "our" place is a good call.. thank you for the replies.. and really, i am trying to deal with it, but i'm only human and these emotions are rough!
It sounds lonely 'but' also sounds like this guy is serious about you or he wouldn't be into fixing it up. Stick it out, make a life of your own (not separate from his, just dont merge into him or you will loose who you are, & he likes you for who you are). When he comes home and sees all the cool modifications, he'll be so proud of you!
