I hate my dad

I don't even know why im posting this, but im pissed and need to vent. Over the years i have been an excellent son. Always helping him out when he needs it. Always buy expensive presents for occassions. I spent $900 so we could go to the superbowl. All in all what im saying is, im a good person. Lately i got layed off from my job, so i borrowed 500 from him until i could get back on my feet or whatever. (this was like 2 weeks ago) Ive gotten a job since. First off, getting 500 out of him was hard enough, he makes 90k a year, my mom makes 100k a year, and im getting shit for $500 when just last year i got them a TV for $2500. So anyway, i come home tonight just to visit, since i dont live there anymore and moved out with some friends a few months ago. I walk in an immidiately get hassled aout the $500 i owe, like he really fucking needs it. I have some heavy bills to catch up on, im making like 500 a week at the moment, and he knows all of this. So i got payed today and took out 200 to give to him, and told him id have the rest later. So he starts fucking yelling at me because i didnt repay him the whole fucking thing. Im just tired of always doing good shit for him, and my mom, who really isnt at fault in this. I feel like they treat me very unfairly, i mean im 21 years old and im there son, shouldnt they feel some kind of obligation or guilt to help me? I pay for anything, they dont do shit for me. Im just sick of their shit. Im sorry for ranting or bringing the mood down or whatever. I guess if anyone cares enough to read this long garbage, let me know if you think im somehow wrong here. Let me know what you would do in my shoes. Peace guys, happy smoking. Im through 3 grams since the fight 2 hours ago. Its a miracle i can still function...

 

Financial shit can really tear a family apart. It's kinda shitty that he's giving you such a hard time about it.... just take it as a lesson to not borrow from him (them?) again, because he apparently doesn't want to be cool about it.

 

Thanks for the response. youre right too, dealing with family when it comes to finances is the fucking worst. Im mad enough at this point that i may not speak to him for months, i hate him at the moment, and i doubt it will change. And for the record, even thought he isnt an alchaholic, or an absentee dad, he is still a complete piece of shit. He never even spent time with me. Not that i care, but thinking about this has me thinking of shit from the past. Weed really does expand your long term memory, because im bringing back stuff i havent thought about in years. Fuck him.

 

why are you pissed for him expecting money you owe back? he helped you out in a rough situation and when your in the position to pay him back you think he owes you somthing because you buy him presents?

imo your #1 priority should be to pay that back in full, if that means skimping on other things and scrounging money up for a month, then thats what it should take.

 

totally agree with dj.

 

I hear what you're saying but its not that simple. I have higher priorities that had to be payed first such as bills. The people who send out bills wont wait, and they cant wait. My parents have PLENTY of money and he is just hassling me for the fuck of it. I dont know if im right or wrong, but it just pisses me off. Thanks for the response.

 

Dude, your dad sounds like a fucking douche. If you hadnt paid him back for like a month or two I could see him getting mad, but getting mad at you when its just been 2 weeks is pretty shitty.

 

didnt you just spend over 1000 on weed? or was that a different member.

 

Agreed.

Why say you hate your dad over some petty shit, such as money? My dad lives a mile from my house, and I haven't seen him in over 5 years, because he doesn't give a shit about me, and the last time I saw him was only for about 10 minutes. He's never done anything for me. One of the last memories I have of my dad is when he took me with him to pawn his truck for some crack.

Be thankful that your dad cares enough about you to even give you $500, in the first place. There are bigger things to worry about than your dad yelling at you. Fuckin petty mofo.

 

I remember my parents taking me and my brother to my grandparents house while they werent home and i snuck up on and saw them using a credit card trying to unlock a door for money they knew was inside, to buy crack.

I remember realizing my parents werent wearing there wedding rings. Why? Because they sold em for crack.

I remember walking in my brothers room seeing 3 small crack rocks my parents got them for lending them $70 of birthday money, they gave him.

I remember finding crack ghetto bongs, bloody syringes, burnt spoons, fatass bottle of methadone, shoe laces used to tie around your arm to shoot up, all in a bag hidden in a mini safe under my moms bed. I used a pair of scissors to open the cheap piece of shit.

I remember my mom punching my grandma(her mom) for not lending her money crack.

I remember seeing my grandfather bloody from a broken nose due to my dad high on crack.

I remember my dad missed his methadone dose from the methadone clinic and actually slicing his lip and calling the cops saying my grandmother punched him, when all she does is lend him money, put a roof over HIS families head, and supports his children.

I remember making my mom admit she had just smoked crack in the bathroom by tellin her i was gonna call the cops, she only admitted it because she actually believed me because she was paranoid from the crack.

I remember the night my uncle died of a heroin dose.

I remember finding out for the 1st time my brother overdosed and died in his sleep.

I remember driving in a car with my dad after he had eaten a mass amounts of xanax, and hitting 2 cars w/o stopping.

I remember the roughly 20 nights where my mom was out all night smoking crack ignoring her cell phone.

I Remember the night where i saw my mom and dad walk in at 4AM thinking i was asleep. Right when they walked in my dad begs my mom for the crack and starts smoking a ghetto right there in the fuckin kitchen, in front of their son.

I remember countless drug runs my parents took me on when i was to little to know what they were actually doing.





I remember the reason for this post was to get the OP to realize how little his problem was, and to be thankful to have a dad that loves him.

 

"Oh noooo.....my daddy is yelling at me. I have to pay him HIS money back. I hate him."

 

^^^LMAO!! man seriously it's not all that bad u owe him and he wants to be paid, simple as that. Im not even allowed to go to my dads house enymore

 

I respect everyones opinion, and thanks for the responses. I dont see how this is a loving thing to do. If i dont pay $400 a month for insurance i can lose my license. If i dont pay for school i cant learn. Meanwhile this money means nothing to him. I cant understand how im the only one that has a problem with this. Im not upset i got yelled at, im upset because i feel like my own dad threw me under the railroad tracks.

 

Yah I see where your coming from bro. I havent asked my dad for money in years and hopefully never have to. My sister stole $50,000 from my dad last year and that tour apart our family alot. We have been slowing getting better as a whole, but I would never dare to ask my dad for even $15. I could just see his face now asking why im broke.

 

400 a month for insurance??? what the fuck?? why in gods name are you paying 400 a month for insurance??

jesus fucking christ thats almost 5 grand a year..

 

:huh:

 

No lie, $ is the worst thing with family. I wont lend it out more than I can afford, because it never finds it's way back. I say pay them back and never ask for $ from 'em again

 

haha owned
maybe you should get your priorities straight

 

if you cant give him $500 bucks back then how they fuck do you give him a $2000 tv or $900 bucks for the superbowl?

 

dude, dont crack out your stories about your life and try to win the battle of who has it worse....just shut the fuck up man! hes not saying he has it worse than you, he just wanted to vent, not have you being a dick and trying to convince him that his problem isnt bad.....youre just wasting breath by doing that. its not like the OP was saying his life was ruined, he was pissed at his dad for being misunderstanding!

heres what he said:

the OP has lent his parents money and bought them stuff and all, and never had a problem with it.

but then when the OP needs just 500 dollars, after being LAYED off, his father gets all grumpy and bitchy about it.

and its not like he isnt planning on paying his father back, its only been 2 weeks sicne he got the money from his dad, and hes already given 200 dollars back....the OP is just pissed that his dad is being greedy and whiny about getting the money when the OP was always giving and caring with his parents.