I just moved in a week or so ago and I hate it here. The only good part is my classes, and they don't last long enough. I hate living in the dorms. I'm beginning to think this is a big mistake and that college is really really overrated. It's exactly like high school... I thought the people would be cooler but they're not. the same petty bitching over every damn thing. I know it's only been a week, but damn. I'm four hours away from my hometown and all I wanna do is just get as far away from Valdosta State University as I possibly can. Someone help me. Please.
I know what you mean... Don't worry about it the first few weeks are always the hardest...but eventually with time you'll get used to it and begin to see the fun side of college...we all go through that phase and it's horrible...trust me..it's a pain in the ass... But hang on..be strong...eventually you'll get through this and the brighter side of all it would come along..and you'll enjoy it and they'll be your best years ever...you'll see...just be patient.. it's the common adaptation process...everyone goes through it...it's a pain in the ass...believe me...a real big pain in the ass.... Time would do the trick..hang on..be strong...
Just relax. It's hard for everyone at first. Take some comfort in the fact that there are a bunch of people around you all going through the same thing. You may not like everyone at first, but you'll find people you like eventually. And just think - it could be worse - you could have to work for a living. "Dont tell me this town aint got no heart. Ya just gotta poke around."
Yea.Alot of kids feel the same way their first day of high school too, but it all gets better. Like they said above, just give it time. In a few weeks, you'll be having a ball!
Word. Yea college made me feel very awkward during the first week or so too, but it picked up quick and it soon became very awesome. Like they said above, just go with the flow and wait for things to get better. Trust me it will.
Stick it out for the semester. If you don't like it by December, try someplace else. I've dropped out of college twice now and I've finally found a place I can deal with for a while. The first time I even gave up a full scholarship to get out of UW-Madison. I went back home and lived with my parents and went to a local school for a while. There's lots of options. And another thing, dorms are my idea of hell on earth. I only like other people for so long, and living with hundreds of hyperdork freshmen tends to seriously imbalance the chemicals in my brain. Consider an apartment where you can have your own space and peace of mind. -Atlas
Thanks so much you guys. Everyone I've talked to about this problem has said the exact same thing: "It'll get better in a few weeks. Trust me." Soooooooooo... I'll guess I'll trust everyone and stick it out for a few more weeks. Thanks, you guys. I'm still gonna look at getting an apartment for next semester, though. Geez. *peace and light*
Suggestions: 1. Get the hell out of the dorms ASAP. I've known some people who actually liked the dorms, or at least saw it as a good opportunity to make some good friends. I would rather shoot my foot off. I know at my school, incoming freshmen have to live in the dorms for the first year (I came in as a transfer student, so I avoided that). If your school has such a policy, just take it as something to get thru, after that it gets far better. 2. Find some extracurricular activities to keep out out of the dorms as much as possible. Look for clubs that fit your interests -- you'll find people who share your interests & get to interact with people who are not the stereotypical freshman. If there is a subject that you are particularly interested in, see if there is a departmental student association or club, especially if you think you might consider majoring in that area... You'll get to interact with students in that field & learn a little more about how interested you really are in the subject. 3. Find a nice coffeeshop nearby to do your studying, instead of fighting the roommate to turn down her stereo (or whatever). Yet another way to stay the hell out of the dorms!
Heheh, I was always one of those people who preferred to study with music (and usually not quiet music) when possible. So was my roommate... we had some great inter-dorm speaker wars last year.
I'm starting college in a few days, and i'm really excited, but have never really been away from home for too long and value my privacy. so, im bringing a lot of stuff to make my dorm feel homey and familiar, and im also bringing a valance to hang from a ribbon across the room, if i want to make my personal space more tangible. ALSO, i bought a hamster to bring, because animals are comforting and alas, i cannot bring my cats to school.
i feel the exact way as you- i cant stand high school, for the reasons you said above and more- i really wanna drop out and be homeschooled, so i can do all the stuff i want to do, and not what society feels i need to do (this isnt my only reason) i dont have any advice but you can go to a school that will train your for the career you want, and you dont have to go to college, think about all your options- what do you want to do for a job?
