I got the ball rolling at least...

So hears the deal. I grew up in religious family, going to church every sunday and all that fun stuff. My aunt is a lesbian, and I remember always hearing about how wrong it was to "choose" to live the gay lifestyle. How sinful it was and stuff from all sides.

So I didn't think anything unusual of my urges and longing for another boys. I just assumed it would be something that passed. I did notice that I really never wanted a girl like I wanted a boy, that was always kind of strange, but again, people weren't gay they just chose to live that lifestyle.

I've had girlfriends, none for a year but there was never really a shortage of girls you were attracted to me. I felt the same way for their personality, but It was never much a of a physical attraction.

So at first it kind of scared me that this wasn't improving, I wasn't growing out of it. An I'm in no way religious at this point, but still in the back of my mind I had always known I was straight, so questioning it was hard.

Finally I admitted to myself that I was def gay, before I even was 100% sure I was trying to figure out someone to tell. I thought this older guy, about 30, since he's one of the most chill friends I have right now. Similar views on things, and a real mellow person. So we were driving back to town one night and I was going to tell him but I chickened out. We were chilling at his place drinking some beers and I was like fuck it I'll grab another beer and then tell him. I see that I left my facebook up on the computer and he changed my status to something like " I'm gay and I'm out I just wanted everyone to know I like dicks" or something like that. I freaked out inside.

Finally a month later I ended up telling him and he's been 100% cool about it. He apologized to me after I told him how close I came right before he went on my facebook.

I've only told like 10 people so far. But i feel like if everyone knew right now I would be fine, I'm still trying to take it slow though. At the beginning it was one of those, please keep this a secret things.


I know that was really long but I just wanted to share that. Especially for the people who really want to tell somebody but haven't, or started to and got scared off. there are plenty of cool people out there that are legit and understanding.

I encourage you to go for it. Can't keep it locked up inside forever. My only regret is that I didn't realize things much sooner, but like iI said I just assumed it was a phase that I would outgrow.

Best of luck to everyone.

 

Thanks for sharing your story. Best of luck to you too!

 

Thanks for sharing your story. It is weird, one of my friends from alaska had the same thing happen to him. (left his facebook up and another friend posted a coming out on his news feed). People can be stupid about things sometimes.

I am glad to hear that your friend took the news well. You will find that most people who are actually your friend either knew for a while, or dont care either way. Those that do were not really your friend to begin with.

Just wondering, did you get any responses on your facebook post? or did you take it down too fast?

 

I left it up with a comment, Sweet that's what i get for leaving my facebook up. But that was sort of a calculated move. But that was a few months ago.

As for now, I've told a bunch of people. I'm sure it's already spread around my small hick town, which doesn't bother me.


the coolest thing was telling my old girlfriend the other day. I think we;ll probably be real tight now. I was really interested to know if she ever would have thought that but she was completely shocked, not because she was mad or anything, but just really really surprised. I had a long long talk with her about different things and it was really nice

So basically I'm telling everyone slowly. Maybe around 20 so far, but the town i live in is so small that I'm sure pretty much everyone knows. I'd rather everyone know, and get any bullshit over with, from the star. I'm sure now, so I'm fine with people knowing. Now that I know for sure, I don't want to have to try and hide shit all the time. Even if there are people who talk shit which they will, I'd just rather have it be a known thing and not have to worry about it. The idea of hiding anything just isn't for me. I just legitimately didn't know for a long time. the mix of religion from a young age(even though i haven't been religious for years) and not fitting into the gay community made it hard to figure out. I mean I was taught that people weren't gay, they just chose it, or that it was a phase, and the fact that I don't fit into the gay stereotype. I go to music festivals and shows, I snowboard, I wear tiedyed shirts shorts and duct taped flip flops.

It's kind of funny. My buddy, the facebook status one, told me that people have thought he was gay for the last 10 years. He's 100%straight and it's always bothered him that people thought that because of his interests an personality, and for me im totally gay but nobody would ever think that. Just goes to show what stereotypes are worth, lol.

But I wish anyone the best of luck on their journey. I'm well on my way. My friend was surprised how quickly I started telling people. He thought he'd be holding a secret for years. I just don't really care what people think, I don't care about their drama. I am who I am, and nothing is going to change that.

Peace and good luck

 

Do you want to know what was really going on? The surprise was just an act, trying to hide her getting excited, the entire length of your deep and meaningful new best bud talk, she was picturing herself being the filling and you and most likely her current squeeze being the sandwich. Or the payback scenario, her and her galfriends torturing your faggy little ass as payback for all the shit they have to put up with guys. Either way, afterwards she probably went home, pulled out the pink rabbit and pulverised that clit till there was no tomorrow.

Dont believe me, next time you have your big deep and meaningful with a gal about your dreams and hopes for a homo future. Watch the body language very closely, the hands in the lap, legs clamped together, small gulps, ears flicked back like a scared deer. Chicks are just as sick as the guys are, they are just really good at hiding it






Last time I responded to a post of yours, you got defensive and I believe called me a troll, feel free to do the same thing again, but you should know, this kind of talk:

Really frustrates me. 'The gay stereotype', its YOUR gay stereotype, And/or the gay stereotype of what you described as the small hick town were you reside, with a homo population of 1. What does tie dye have to do with anything?. When you talk like that, you are doing the exact same thing you are complaining about with those that couldnt see you, denying the existence of the rest of us

With this one, I'm going to sound like a dick again, but seriously, has it never ever registered with you, that quite possibly a lot of people dont say to your face what they really think of you. How do you know what they are really thinking - can you read their minds? Wake Up!

 

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Actually read your post. And stereo types are dumb for sure. But it isn't really my stereotype. It's sort of seen like that for a lot of people. And there are plenty of people who try to conform into it more. I guess maybe it's a result of being on the outside of the norm and trying to immerse yourself into a place where you can fit in. Though it would be a huge stereotype to group everyone into one spot, but there are a lot of similarities with a good amount of gay people that I don't really fit with. Not that there aren't plenty of people you don't fit into that stereotype for many different reasons.


As for the ending believe me they were genuinely surprised.


I just don't feel like your understanding me, and you were being a douche in the other thread for sure

 

LOL...this happened to an acquaintance of mine. His said "I don't know how to tell my parents that I'm gay" and so I tried to counsel him. He posted and responded to my message that someone had went on his facebook ... but he still thanked me "for all the help" and then I swear he told a friend of his to come to me about his problems in this area. It's weird that this should happen so often. hmmm... Good luck though, and always know that there are thousands of people with a situation sometimes even exactly the same as yours! And know that people have been going through the same thing, and have made it through just fine!