I get lots of negative comments on how I dress and look

In general I don't give a fuck about peoples opinion but this is really annoying me. I have just meet my old schoolmates I haven't seen them in a while and I dress like usual long hair some shorts and an t-shirt and I walk barefoot like always. When they saw me they say that I don't wash my hair nor my clothes and that I'm dirty. This is what all other folks say about me in general and that I'm strange and that I'm not normal.I have two good friends who support me and are always there for me no matter how I dress or act. So my question is what to tell those people who say that I'm dirty (which I'm not I wash everyday with natural soap and same goes for my clothes they are also clean) should I just stick with my two good friends and say fuck off to those who don't accept me or should I bring up an argument but what should I say to them like why I dress this way and why do I go barefoot all my other friends dress like the society tells them to do so what can I say to them to shut them up for good?
And Since I have started this thread I have some other questions to ask here
-Should I change my self so others would like me or should I stay the same as I'm and the right people will come
-Should I pay attention to critics towards me (I never have bring an harm to anyone and I try to be nice as possible but they still judge me like I'm some so kinda of super weirdo )


Sorry that I turned into an drama queen but It would be nice if you could answer those questions Thanks :daisy:

 

i had a buddy who stopped using shampoo about the same time that i did, and he would shower every day but his hair was always really greasy and dirty because he didn't spend enough time washing it.

i guess my point is that you should make sure that you are actually as clean as you think you are.

otherwise, fuck everyone else. if you're happy, then it doesn't matter.

 

:sunny: Thanks this is what I was looking for.

So if they start talking how dirty I'm or how weird I'm I just can say fuck you at least I'm happy for who I'm

 

I think that they are going to automatically say that you are dirty because you have long hair and go barefoot.

So there is a certain trade-off between being accepted by others and self-acceptance.

It's a matter of your own priorities. There is not necessarily a right or wrong answer.

You may have fewer friends because of the way you dress. There is a cost to it.

But also, the friends that you have are probably your real friends

 

tell these so called friends to do one ,just be yourself

 

It doesn't look too cool being normal anyway. Keep it strange, keep it weird and keep giving other folk something to think about. If people always comment on you then you're winning because like, how pathetic and trivial does it all sound.

 

spot on irminsul

 

Being Barefoot For 7 Years And A Dready For 4

I Expected To Cop What Your Copping, But It Didn't Happen, At Least Not

To My Face, My Guess Is What Is Happening To You Is Just Insecure

Teenagers Who Are Afraid To Stand Out From The Crowd.

What I Do Is To Make Sure I'm Always Showered, Shaven, And Wearing

An Expensive Aftershave, That Way I Am More Likely To Get A Nice

Complement From The Person Standing Near Me And A Smile....

Hope This Helps In Some Small Way....



Cheers Glen.

 

You should stay the same and the right people will come. I reached a point where I got pretty adept at recognizing people on the same wavelength as me....just look for those people

 

I'd generally agree with not caring what others think about me.
BUT
The opinions and perceptions of other people are the only input I get that doesn't come from me. When they tell you that you look dirty, they are telling you what you present to them.
Ignoring them is ignoring data, which will lead to you becoming self-centered and self-absorbed.

Rather than ignore them, do what you did. Evaluate what they say (you verified that you aren't dirty, that you bathe and wash your clothes), think about the fact that that is what you present and decide what to do.

Don't let others opinions rule you, but don't ignore other's opinions and perceptions. Include the fact that people have those opinions and perceptions about you when deciding what you want to do with yourself.

 

i really know what you mean. i learned back in school how to handle negative comments and things like that. as i was a teen i decided that i dont want to be like the others. i refused to get new clothes, wore always the old stuff from my sister. i wore never any jewelry or make up and i never cared how my hair was done. and as always there where a lot of people who made fun of me and worse because i was not "normal" and dressed not the way it was fashionable. but i went my way and decided just to not care what others say about me or their reactions. i had not many friends back then but the friends i found stayed friends to the present. i got used to it that there are a lot of morons out there. i dont look "normal" so it is understandable that people talk about/with me how i dress and so on. that is okay with me. but if people have a bad attitude towards me i just ignore them. life is too short for dealing with morons i think and i just want to do things my way. if others have problems with that it is not my problem.

i know that i get attention the way i dress and look and that is no problem for me. if it were i could easily change it. buy some new clothes and put shoes on. get a haircur and do some makeup and i would look like the average student. but i wont do that. i go barefeet everywhere. i have very few clothes only that what is left from the stuff my sister gave me five years ago. Worn out and threadbare now but i wont go for new clothes. i havent bought any clothes for about ten years and i will not start with it just because other people think i should do so. i try to keep them as clean as i can though (washing them in the sink by hand) and i shower each day or two. my hair is always a mess but what about it? it is my hair i can wear it like i want.

when it comes to other things i also dont own much. just what i need for living. all my belongings would find place in my backpack. i dont need to have much things and i am happy the way it is. i dont have much money to spend in fact often i am broke. if it would be important for me to buy a lot of stuff and to dress up and to spend money for this and that i would be sad most of the time. ;-)

said that my advice is: you should not change yourself to please others or to become popular. popularity can be nice i know that but it can be lost very fast. i witnessed that a couple of times. people who did everything to become popular and then something happened and they were suddenly without any friends. because they had no real friends. so just wait for the right people to become real friends. worked for me.

if people think you are a "super weirdo" (i know the feeling ;-) what about it?

just be yourself!

 

Simply explain to them your beliefs man. Maybe your good vibes will rub off on them, and they will see things differently. I personally only go barefoot in the house, sometimes the yard. Too many fuckers breaking glass in the city, or needles on the ground. I have been lookin into getting those shoes with the individual toes that are supposed to give the same feel of barefeet, but we will see how they stack up

 

tell em to get stuffed.

Most people just say what they feel is wrong with themselves.

People who are at peace with themselves are nice to others.

see what i mean?

They dump their shit on you and make you feel crap........

 

Called projection, defensive behavior.

people are so farked.

 

i totally agree.

 

People who are so insensitive and rude don't deserve your respect.
In the previous post i explain what i think is going on, so you have an idea now.

Firstly their opinion means shit.
They guess they can upset you?

You got to master this one or you will go through life listening to what other people say and they will spoil your day.

Toughen up and if all else fails tell them to take a flying fuck!

 

More than likely there is something about you they envy?

Trouble is you don't know what it is.

 

Maybe they envee how free he is as compared to how stressed and oppressed they are?

 

you can do whatever you want.
just please dont sit next to me on the train if you smell like pee.

 

We know people unfairly judge based on appearance, its always been like that and it always will be. Conforming to what is considered the norm is not mandatory in our society anymore but not conforming or going too far outside the lines has its drawbacks. You have to be clear why you are doing what you do and if you are truly happy and then it really doesn't matter what others say or think and long as you aren't harming anyone.