I feel so bad.....

Last night, I showed up at my friends house at about 3 in the morning to crash on his fouton. This alone isn't a big deal - everybody sleeps on the fouton - except that this is the third time I've done it this WEEK. And last night he really didn't want to be deprived of his bed, so, I meant to just lay there a few minutes and then figure something else out, even go into my car or something, but I apparently fell asleep. Now I just feel really terrible because he's one of my favorite people in the world, and I don't want to make things difficult for him in any way.

Sad face...

 

Why did you go to his place at that time to crash on his sofa, may I ask?

 

So did you sleep in his bed or on his futon?


I'm not really sure I understand what you're trying to say.

 

Oh, sorry for the confusion... his fouton IS his bed. And I went there to crash because I told my parents I was staying with friends each night so I could be out later and everything, blah blah blah, and his place is generally where you can go to sleep at any hour. I was with another guy friend the first two nights, and then the same guy and another girl last night - (both of whom are two of his best friends, so it's not like unknown people were imposing).

Yes, this is slightly disjointed, still feeling the effects a tad. But anyway, just wanted to tell someone about my non-goodness.

 

Non-goodness... is that politically correct for "bad?"

 

I don't know, I would say just tell him you're sorry, you didn't mean to fall asleep. Actually, just tell him everything you told us (minus the intro, because he obviously knows he has a futon, blah blah blah). He seems like an understanding person and I'm sure he'll be very forgiving (if he's even moderately upset about it).

 

Maybe hes one of those types that is just so cool about things that hes cool about it even when hes not cool with it.


In that case you would just let him know that you didn't mean to fall asleep on his bed and maybe refrain from falling asleep on his bed for a few days.

You might even go so far as to throw a pillow and small blanket in your trunk so you could crash at his house without robbing him of his bed. I used to travel around with a ready-made crash kit just in case of such things. Drunken, police, ect...

 

Be sure to use condoms...

 

aww, don't feel bad... one time i showed up at my friend's house without lettin her know (i had just got back from the west coast) and her dad was kinda pissed and my dad wouldn't come get me and i was just like... damn, i'm not wanted here haha... lol i haven't gone back since. hahaha

 

Don't do it anymore! Pretty easy really...

And from your other post it sounds like you have some issues with your parents that you have to iron out. I know you don't mean to but it sounds like you're taking this boy for granted and using him as a way to lie to your parents. If you care for him (ie respect him) as much as you say you do then you'll stop.

 

I slept on a friend's floor for the past three days... one of those days with his parents unknowing of it... then today, his sister became overly pissed and kicked a hole in his door. Talk about venting. I just got home an hour ago and have been multi-tasking juggling between doing paperwork and posting, sometimes at the same exact time. Now... my dad is asleep. That means I have to get up at 5:00am and force him to sign these papers because my parents know nothing about the state laws of Virginia when it comes to education, even if I explain its simplicity thrice... well, it's not all simple for some... I think the laws are fairly simple - just the majority have no sense and are completely useless as they're from 1950 and people are too damned ignorant to know any difference in how things worked then and now and how innefficient today's laws really are when it comes to things such as this... and the latest law is from 1998 where you can start homeschooling at any time of the year...

 

Okay okay okay, this seems to be appearing worse than it actually is. To clarify...I'm really not just "using" this guy, he's a very good friend. He also just happens to have an incredibly cool mom who does not mind if you sleep in her basement at any point in time. I don't have any huge issues with my parents, either. For pete's sakes, it's the most classic teenage move in the books...every sitcom has an episode on it A big part of the evasion rises from me wishing to hang out with one of my best friends when we can, with whom it really doesn't matter if I sleep on a fouton or couch with seeing as he is gay. However, he doesn't exactly wish to tell the world of parents this, and thus complications arise.

Anyway, it'll be okay. I knitted my wronged friend a scarf today, that will display my remorse

 

If he doesn't want the world to know, I suggest you tell people that you two shagged.

 

Hmm... no, that would be overblown.

 

It could just be a one-nite thing..its good to shag every once in a while.

 

Nobody would beleive it because she said he was gay.

 

Why would he care that every now and then your stealing his bed???

Any very good friend wouldnt really care, well i wouldnt, just as long as my friends had somewhere safe to sleep then i'd be kool with it. But eventually it would get really annoying, like say after the 50th time i'd have to give up my bed.
just ask him where you can go to sleep when you come over so you dont wake him up?

 

Well, he's always still awake, so that's not the problem.

Anyway, I saw him today and told him I was so sorry, etc, and gave him the scarf I made, but I still feel guilty. He's not mad or anything though anymore.

 

but i thought she said he doesnt exactly want the world to know...or maybe i cant read

 

Haha, conFUSION.

The friend who's bed I slept on is not gay (I actually have a huge crush on him, which slightly complicates matters). The friend whom I was with when I slept there IS gay. Clear?