I feel my hair is a root problem of my anxiety

So I have really curly hair, and have been growing my hair long this past year. I am in my sophomore year of college, and feel that my hair is really starting to affect how I interact with people. It's what many would call the "awkward phase". It's long enough to be like wow. he has long hair. But still too short to full put behind my ears and all, or even make a full pony tail (I can but the bangs are still too short to reach all the way back). My main point is. I don't know whether to cut it or just leave it for a while. I have been thinking of these.
Pros: It looks good.
Makes me stand out (In a good way)
Looks really good (on a good hair day)

Cons: It looks gross
No matter how much I try to make it look neat, it will always looks wild
It gets in my eyes and face too much
It just overall makes me feel awkward

I am not kidding. It is just about impossible to make this hair look neat or tamable. It just won't die! By this I mean, it will frizz up uncontrollably, and I can't just get it to lay down. It's always puffy. I feel like people are always looking at me thinking about why I have my hair like this and what's wrong with me. I feel I get dirty looks because of it, and am seen differently. I don't like that kind of attention. It's just I'm so close to having full long hair, and at this point it's like might as well keep going since I've gotten this far. But I feel I'm not enjoying life with this fucking burden on my head. Why is this in the relationships forum? It fucking KILLS my confidence around girls!

here's an idea

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Grow it! Nothing is easier than long hair. Just shove it in a ponytail or bun! Forget trying to agonize over doing it. Just use a head band or scarf to keep it back till it grows. I had really long hair for years, then did the idiotic cut....Such a regret and takes ages to make a shorter hair cut look good.
Hair emits light. Its part of our aura. Grow it I say.

 

I haven't cut my hair for over 15 years... Go for it!

 

Yeah, go for it! Until it gets long enough to pull back, you could use some hairbands or tams, hats like dread-wearing people use.

 

sorry if my icon is misleading... I'm a guy by the way

 

Bandannas

I really think you are overestimating the thought put into it by others. I have the same hair as you're talking about, and had to overcome similar insecurities the first time I grew it out.

 

Grow it! My friend has super dark curly hair. And it's always wild and always super cute. I don't think the awkward stage is as bad as you may think it is. It always seems worse to the person going through it.

 

Though it may seem to effect your relationships, you could also look at it this way. Do you really want to acquaint yourself with the kind of people who put you down for having long hair?

Hairy people hang out with hairy people, we know exactly how it is to have different looks. It teaches you alot about the ego and how to live your life to the fullest while not worrying about other peoples opinions on the matter, Its all in your own perspective, if you were raised in a "long-haired people" world, short hair would be looked at as out of the norm. so its silly to worry about such unimportant things.

By the way my hair is past my shoulders, and I know exactly that "Phase" your talking about. But that phase is all in your head, it is nothing more than a problem created by your own mind. So dont worry about it!

 

Dude long hair is cool. I've always liked long hair on guys. If you cut it you'll just regret it and have to start the process of growing it out all over again. That takes time.

 

Embrace The Wild, Screw The Haters...:2thumbsup:



Cheers Glen.

 

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I just hate how like I feel I have to prove myself THAT much more, to get people past the whole oh he's probably just some dome hippie stoner impression. I just wish it would die! (by that I mean for it to just get straight, and not always be a puffy mop) Does anyone know any tips for this? Sometimes my hair is just so wild I feel the need to wear a beanie or a hood... I hate it. I just want to feel comfortable with it, but it just looks so unkempt, no matter how much I try. and that's the thing. I CANNOT comb it. If I comb it, it frizzes like MAD.

 

You sound like you don't really like your hair. Maybe you should cut it off.

 

Use a brush....


Also once it's all one length the weight of the hair itself will keep it under control better. It's also possible you wash it to much and are stripping the natural oils out of your hair.

 

I love this kind of thick hair myself. I saw chicks with similar hair who got it much flatter and straightened later. I don't know how they did it but I never saw them with such big heads of hair again... So it can be changed for sure

Anyway, I'm a guy as well and if you have thick hair and gonna grow it you always get to this awkward unpractical stage when it is too short to put it a handy tail and too light to hang it loose without getting some kind of fluffy afro. When it's near and past your shoulders it gets much better!

 

Walmart sells a product called Groom and Clean, it's usually near the after shaves, great stuff for frizzy hair. Add it to your hair when it's damp.

 

dread it up..

 

I always thought about dreading, but don't think it's for me. I just want my long hair to seem nice and presentable. I just can't over this feeling that I just look "ridiculous"... Like I feel so self conscious about it, especially when I'm around short haired conservative looking guys. And with girls I feel like I shouldn't even be approaching them. And it's stupid that I feel this way, because I ALWAYS see long haired guys with the girls... So I know most of this is in my head...

 

dye it bright orange like an early nineties wayne coyne

 

Hair a problem... Shave it all off!
'I think people judge more on confidence levels more than hair. Just my .02 anyways.