Or some feeling like that.. I've not told any of my friends, but when I had my first boyfriend, I gave up my virginity to him and he turned out to be a total asshole and that was all he wanted from me. I can say my first time was painful, because the guy I was with didn't care. He just kept pushing when I told him to stop, and kept saying everything would be okay. It wasn't rape, although I did try to push him off a few times, then just gave up. I hate him. He made me cry and he didn't even care. He just went on forever, then finally finished and I left. He broke up with me soon after that saying I wasn't good at sex and I was a bitch and I made him mad. I think about it quite often. I feel horrible.. I told my current boyfriend, that he took my virginity. He is nowhere near my first boyfriend. He is actually my third boyfriend, and we may be young, but I know I'm going to be with him for the rest of my life. It's just that feeling you get when you find your soulmate. I found mine soon in life. I feel somewhat better sometimes when I say that he was the one that took that precious gift. He treats me so much better, and he's sensual and slow. If I don't like something, he stops. He doesn't get mad or just go on like my first boyfriend did. He's one of those few good guys you find out there. I feel alittle better getting this off my chest. I've wanted to tell someone for awhile, and I hope no one critizies badly. I feel bad enough about it most of the time.. I know I made a mistake, but we all do. And mine isn't as bad as some. Right? =[
From my observations,most girls seem to get a jerk early on and eventually learn that it takes time to judge a persons character and determine a persons worth before committing to give away something so personal.Trust should be earned.
i'm sorry these bad things happened to you.. but i am glad you haven't turned away from all men, because of one jerk. <3 cheers doll!
Scratcho - Yes, trust should be earned. It's part of what a relationship strives on, I guess. Most of us girls do always get the jerks early. I guess because were young and don't know better. That's why alot of us make mistakes. But, you do learn from them. My boyfriend and me trust each other fully, because we didn't rush into anything. We took time to get to know each other. With my first boyfriend, I only know a few things about him. I think alot of girls sometimes make the mistake with their first boyfriend, thinking it's their true love, and they give away their innocence, thinking that's what should be done. But, it's not. And I know that. I do regret it, and I can't change it, but I know I'm not the only one that has ever made the mistake.. Babyjay - Nope. I wasn't gunna let one jerk ruin my dating life. I had no reason to not go on to another relationship, right? And now I have a really great boyfriend that actually cares. =]
when people say they've made mistakes that have only hurt themselves I always think: A mistake that hurts only your self is so much better than those mistakes that hurt others. Screw the guy who took your virginity, the affection you feel for this third boyfriend is so much more important than who was first.
You should re-enact your first time with your boyfriend... but this time you'll be the one almost-raping him. It will make you happy.
Ok so the guy was a jerk; don’t sweat it Our main goal as men is to get between your legs, and we’ll do and say anything to achieve that end Hotwater
yeah, IANABIAP, what the hell are you talking about? She wasn't mocking rape victims at all. She practically was one. Sorry to hear that happened, Jesnk. And glad to know you're with a good guy now. I'd suggest telling him this. He won't judge you if he is a good person and will understand. It will make you feel even better than telling just us here on the forum. Good luck
I wouldn't call her being practically a rape victim, she was just used, which happens a lot. It's never right, and it's the reason I haven't lost my virginity. I could have by now, but I don't want any girl to feel like I'm using her or anything. In any case, you shouldn't feel guilty for it. You weren't the jerk in the situation; he was.
No one expects a man to pull out instantly if a woman sais she is no longer in the mood, but to keep going while she is trying to push you off and is crying, should be an indicator to the man he is raping her. Rape = sex with no consent, even if she gave her consent to have sex (which by the sounds of it she actually didn't), does not mean she gave it for him to keep going as long as he wanted to.
