I enjoy being bi

I've been and still am in a three month relationship with another woman. I've had boyfriends and girlfriends in the last ten years.
Honestly, I don't know what type of lifestyle is right for me. I'm just rolling with the flow and enjoying my life as it unfolds.
I think the relationships I've had with both men and women have been very satisfying to a point, but might be better described as fwb relationships.
I consider myself a very responsible, caring and smart person. I don't mean that in a bragging sort of way. I'm not going to settle in a relationship and call it permanent and for the rest of my life. . .unless, it feels magical and special and life affirming. I trust my gut, my instincts.. and I'll know when it happens..

 

You probably will not know when it happens -- if it happens. Long lasting relationships take time to develop. That s/he's the one is usually just lust. Not that there is anything wrong with lust. It is not a good foundation for a relationship.

 

Thanks. It's a realization that I'm coming to grips with now..

 

In the meantime, enjoy yourself. Be honest with your partners and try to not lead them on or let yourself be led on. I like your new avatar.

 

I'm married and bi and enjoy both worlds!

 

Their all in love!..................lol

 

Thanks for what you wrote. .and yes, that's really me. A real female on this site with a real picture of herself as her avatar.. What a concept!

 

looks like a fun group to go camping with!!!

 

Gorgeous!

 

And what a beauty you are! Love your smile.

 

Thanks..

 

Tell me my lady do you paint your toes nails!

 

No!

 

That is true you will know when you find that special person .I still have butterflies when I am with my partner and these have stayed with me since we first met.

 

Sorry to see ncbumpkin has lost her previous posts. The new avatar is interesting, though!

Regarding "finding the one".... I always associate this with the already-mentioned lust. That is, such feelings, like all feelings, come from the heart, and the problem with that is: The heart is desperately wicked, and deceitful above all. ALL. Our hearts will lie to us. Ahh, but it is sooo delicious to hear. I nearly run in panic when I hear it or feel it.

I heard someone advise others to never marry the one you can live with, but rather, marry the one you can't live without. He might be onto something. I'd be inclined to want someone who makes me want to be a better person, too, but whether I'd marry anyone again is an altogether different matter.

My biggest problem is my inability to read others, and my tendency to second-guess myself. Gets me every time, so far.
I've also noticed over the years that those I'm drawn to and find truly interesting seem to run away as soon as they notice my interest, while those I'm trying to avoid seem to have no problem fooling me entirely. My last wife thought my middle name meant "sucker". I hope you all have much better luck with your efforts.

 

My reply: Not my type. And way too much distraction going on there!

 

A lot!......................

 

ncbumpkin,
I'm glad you're enjoying the experience of being bi, and sharing with the rest of us. I had a few bi girlfriends in the past, and if were ever back on the market again, would likely only seek them out. Not for the mythical threesome, but for what I perceive as the ultimate warmth and affection bi women are capable of. Think about it, you can love a man, love a woman, both at once, and if desired, create the closest bond of all with pregnancy & giving birth. What is more freeing and open than that?

How has the reaction been of those in your life to the moving in with another woman? Did it change once the "Oh she's just experimenting, will only get serious & end up with a guy" prospect went away?

One of the bi ex's, knew I was going to marry her someday. She had a vivid dream I'd have a stroke, & slowly die, leaving her alone as a young widow. Broke up with me over that. But came back several times due to intense chemistry.
Get this, years later, she is married to a guy, same name, had 2 strokes in his late 30's, early 40's, he's slowly, but surely dying, & she left him! Either her vision had the wrong last name, or it would've been me! Wow!

Thanks for sharing your story, and your bright smile with us!

 

My reply: That is truly bizarre, man. Can't tell you much about your lost opportunity, though. I turned a girl down years ago when she made an offer to me for a threesome, as I just couldn't figure out how that would work. Perhaps I should've let them teach me. It might have changed my life forever. One never knows....

As for ncbumpkin, I hope all of your relationships are as wonderful as you describe.