I don't want to do it

I think I'm pregnant.
I didn't get my period in January. My boyfriend and I are pretty safe. But he's a fucking idiot, and waiting until now (when I'm late) to tell me that the condom broke one time.
He said "I didn't think anything would happen."
Ass.
So now I'm late. My boyfriend lives with me so we can split rent. He just lost his job. And waited until now to tell me this bullshit.
If he had told me then, I could've gotten the emergency pill, but no...he thought he knew my period better than me...and he figured it would be ok.
Now, I love my boyfriend. He's just doesn't have his shit together at all.
He's broke, jobless, lives with me, doesn't have a car, and now he knocked me up. What fucking kind of idiot am I? I'm retarted, jesus.
Now I have to go pay for an abortion, out of my pocket. I'm sure he'll want to come along for the ride, ha. Watch while I pay for his idiocy.
Asshole.

 

I have all the signs too. Swollen, sore breasts. Constant nausea and vomiting. I feel like I'm having period cramps, though. I don't know what's going on!

Can anyone offer any advice?

 

God. Anyone? I feel like I'm going to puke on my keyboard, I'm so stressed out.

 

um.

i personally don't believe in abortion. but anyhow//

go buy a pregnancy test?

 

Hey, I sent you a PM

 

First of all, go take a pregnancy test. Confirm your fears first, before stressing out about what may not be necessary. Then, consider all of your options. Don't act without thinking of everything, from every angle.

 

Take a test. And, breathe. Where is your life right now? Are you working? In school? What is your family situation like, how long have you been with your bf? Relax everything will be okay.
Hadley

 

Oh, sweetie. I feel so bad that you are so sick and going through such a rough time.

I answered in the WIF. I am sorry your bf is such a loser. Probably better not to have a kid with him, you'd end up doing everything. Until he starts taking some responsibility for his actions and his RENT. (not to mention being able to support a partner and a baby, while you are taking care of the baby. He needs a job for that.)

Take the test this morning and see what is what. Call Planned Parenthood, if you want an abortion, they can hook you up with sliding scale type payment.

Blessings. I hope you are going to be OK.

 

((((HUGS))))) BTDT

PM me if you need someone to listen. I will not bore you with my story, or offend you by relating your experience to mine, but if you got stuff you gotta talk about, I'm here for ya'

 

I work full time in Colorado. My family is in Maryland. I've been here over a year. i let my boyfriend move in so we could split rent. He just lost his job. We've been together since November.
Oh, here's something sweet. When I told him I was late and worried about being pregnant, he admitted that the condom broke once when he came earlier in January. Isn't that nice?

 

Wow. So it's all HIS fault.

 

He did keep that secret from me, which is stupid and selfish. Now I have to deal with the consequencees.

 

Well, as does he. He's now dumped, unemployed and homeless.

With a girl who hates him for having "done this to her".

Were you raped at the time?

No.

You BOTH made the decision to do this. It broke, he didn't figure it mattered, that sort of thing can happen, yeah. There are women who don't ask when they get antibiotics if that can affect the pill, but hey, the guy's not allowed to storm off and blame her for all that went down.

 

I agree IronGoth. It's both of your fault. It's both of your responsibilities to make sure the condom doesn't break, and if it does, to deal with it. You are responsible for your body, okay?

Now you keep posting but have you bought a test yet? You say, "I think i'm pregnant." Don't just think..... go and bloody find out for sure!!!!!!!!!!!!


My best wishes to all of you,
~Peace

 

The only thing about him telling her when it happened was that she could have then gone the next day and got the morning after pill. I definitely consider this more the dudes fault. Hes sounds like a fucking bum too, kick him to the curb.

 

That's true, he could have and obviously should have mentioned it to her. But in the end, we are responsible for ourselves, and we cannot expect someone else to look after our own welfare all the time. A responsible woman will always be aware of what goes on with her own body. Like I said, this girl could have kept tabs on her own. You can't always rely on other people.

Everyone knows condoms aren't 100% reliable. It's a good idea to take BC and use condoms at the same time. I know that I am always aware of the danger when I'm having sex with someone with a condom as the only form of protection.

I don't mean to put this girl down, but I think someone needs to stress the importance of taking responsibility for oneself here. If you made a mistake, own up to it. It's immature and stupid to place the blame on someone else.


~Peace

 

And what if he hadn't noticed.

Does that make him any more or less at fault? Hm?

 

I definitely hear what youre saying, and its true. But this can happen to anyone who has sex, and I understand her frustration with the guy.

 

Of course less, Iron. Why do I get the feeling youre trying to instigate a gender battle with these what if scenarios?

 

Point being, now that she may or may not be knocked up, it's now COMPLETELY his fault.

As if he intended for the condom to break.
etc.

Hey, at least he was merely confused. A buddy of mine is paying child support for 18 years cause she decided to simply TELL him she was on BC as opposed to actually taking it. But that's not HER fault, right, it was his. More fool him for not protecting himself.

Sexual double standards...