I don't like the way my boyfriend kisses

It's so different than mine, he's so, like, slooowwww, and I'm like a "crazy kisser" like slobber, all passionate like. It's not THAT big of a deal, I've learned to live with it, but sometimes (ok a lot) when we're having sex he will start kissing me and it's really just so not-enjoyable for me that I have to turn my head away. It seriously ruins the whole experience for me that I have to like, either change it to a position where he can't reach my mouth, or just smash his head into my chest so that he can't kiss me. It sounds so horrible, I know! We have been together for over 4 years now, and it STILL bothers me! Sometimes I think I have almost forgotten how to kiss right because he kisses so weirdly. It's usually like, one person can get the other person to "convert" to their kissing ways, and I have ALWAYS been the converter, and I feel like he is converting me to kiss BADLY! I have said something about this many times, none recently, but he still hasn't changed his kissing ways. I wish I could describe it, it's like, he rubs his tongue along my lips... which would be good SOMETIMES when it's like, slooow, but when we're like, getting into it, I want some crazy tongue, you know? ok I'm all embarrassed getting into detail this much, but it seriosuly bothers me.

 

theres only one person you can talk to that will fix this problem, and its him

 

i have said stuff before in the past, and he hasn't changed. I dont wanna, like, hurt his feelings either by telling him he's a bad kisser, he's kinda sensitive.

 

If I was your boyfriend right now in this situation, I think I would want you to run me upstairs to the bedroom dragging me the whole way throw me on the bed and start aggresivly kissing the way you would kiss regularly. Tell him to kiss you differently then he does and start playing with him... leading w.e you want it to lead.

Some people kiss differently depending on how there last partner kissed etc. Just find a way to kiss you guys both like and keep it at that. :twocents:

PS. Your gorgeous

 

wait a sec. back up. you've been with this guy for 4 years, and you're more bothered how you'd kiss a random guy. lol. ok, i kid. but still. take it slower. i know it'll drive you crazy, but isnt that what you want?...he cant kiss you like that for the whole kiss, does he?
so aye, take it slow, start gentle, teasing...and a few mintues into it, you both will want to eat each others faces.
if that fails...then, i dunno. slam him down, tell him he's your's, and make him gag.

 

i had this bf who when we french kissed one, it felt as if he was trying to swallow my face, i had this gross saliva ring around my mouth, even a bit on my nose *) :?
broke up with him the same day lol

 

i hate it when guys kiss with their whole tounges down your escophagues, like forcing your mouth into like a seige or something.

My boyfriend is an awesome kisser. thank god I don't have to deal with that anymore.

Maybe your not telling him the right way. You have to explain things to people so they understand. That can be hard for me, since in my experience men would rather not talk about "problems" at all, and leave me to deal with them. You might just have to tell him HOW MUCH it bothers you before he gets it's important. And tell him often. I tell my boyfriend, and I love him, what he does wrong almost every time he does it and I swear to god it sometimes takes many many months for him to have a noticable change in the way he deals with me and the "problem area". And no I do not view myself as controlling. It's just this is me, respect it, and we'll find some middle ground to respect eachother, and it might need change from both teams, if we can BOTH communicate our feelings (which is usually just me...). So there you go.

Sometimes it's just a slow progression, but you have to keep it going and not give up if the relationship is worth it to you. B/c (in my experience) men won't do shit to improve a relationship on their own, b/c they seem to never see things as wrong (blissful ignorance?), and it's up to you to make YOU happy in your relationship.

wow. I almost feel sexist. But am I right?

 

I was gonna say Ghost Busters