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Discussion in 'Relationships' started by NatureFreak412, Jan 9, 2005.

  1. NatureFreak412

    NatureFreak412 Art of Balance

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    Man, I met this girl online right, and we t alked for a month or so on the phone and we started going out. She lives 2 hours away. I really developed love for her, And I still love her. but the stress of a long distance relationship, and the fact we got serious pretty quick, hit me all of a sudden the night after we first met in person, which was last night. Yes shes beautiful and I still love her, but I broke up with her last night, because it took 3 months for us to see each other, and just the stress from it, I cant go pick her up, take her on a date then take her back home. She cant go to my prom with me. We cant just go and like stay out all night having fun. All of the stuff I want with a teenage relationship just cant work out, I do love her tho, and I dont want anything bad to ever happen to her, I care about her so much, but I just couldnt do it anymore. I pretty much broke her heart, but she knows I still love her, we decided to remain friends, and keep the option open that we can try this again one day. I dont think I am really wrong in doing this because I went with what I felt, I didnt break up with her for someone else, I would so go for her if she lived in my area, but she doesnt. And I made the mistake of getting to serious to fast a while back, and it ended with her telling that she hated me wished i was dead, blah blah. But yeah, thats my story. And I feel so bad about doing it tho. Man I feel like I have destroyed her world, and I know its all my fault, but I just couldnt take it anymore, and I want her to have a wonderful life, because she is one of those people that deserve to be happy all the time, any comments are appreciated, thanks.
     
  2. Internity

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    aww...u love her.....???? thats awesome. :) but if u really love her like u say u do u'll end up giving her anyother change and over looking the long distance relastionship...i mean, but its hard but if u think about it, then its hard for her too, so personally i woulda done the same thing because i think she wanted the same kind of teenage relationship as u...how old was she?? it really depends on the relationship u to wanted, u wouldnlt be able to see her, (which sux) and u can only call her and her call u, but there could be time one of u are busy and canlt call, so so much for the phone, plus theres the posibilty of cheating.. u dont really truley know if she would..do u???but she's probly thinking that of u 2,..dont take that the wrong way, u probly never would because thats awesome u love her and she loves u. but u made the right choice, u should wait till ur older to have long distance relastionship...just so it wont be so stressfull, and believe me, stressfull relationships are not good,so i hope i helped....but even if u read this, u'll probly change your mind because u dont care if its stressfull or not, u love this girl,, u'd do anything for her right?? good luck making the right choice.


    ps: WHAT DOES HETEROSEXUAL MEAN>>??IM CONFUSED I ALWAYS WANTED TO KNOW..(YES THATS A STUPID QUESTION, I JUST WANNA KNOW)
     
  3. ahimsa

    ahimsa Senior Member

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    hetero means a person who is predominately attracted to the oppiosite sex, and homosexual means being predominately attracted to the same sex.
     
  4. NatureFreak412

    NatureFreak412 Art of Balance

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    She is 17 going to be 18 in November, and I am about to turn 17 in April. I do love her, I just couldnt handle the stress caused from the distance anymore tho, Thanks for replying.
     
  5. Adgreyga

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    your mature for doing what you did, and i can understand and if i was her forgive you for moving to fast, i feel it was just an attempt to hold on to her and have what you may have feared you'd never have from her since you never see her and have the fear of being apart - tho i understand her too because she may have felt you were trying to make her into on of those out-of-town flings when in reality she feels as strong as you do for her

    again your very mature for breaking it off now while feelings are still on good terms rather than wearing it thin and stressed out to the point where wehn you two do see eachother you dont wanna be around each other, cuz you kno how long it'll be until you see each other again ( kinday why they ending sex in the city while it was still a really hot show - lol)

    altho its stressful you to may still get back together
    love is love is love is love and that can last forever
    hang on to feeling in love - i hear its the best!!!!
     
  6. headymoechick

    headymoechick I have no idea

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    good for you for what you did. you may have saved more heartbreak and stress. I understand that you care for her, but I am surprised about that way she acted. Maybe it was just the heat of the moment. But anyway, you are a very wonderful, thoughtful guy and if you two can remain friends until you can freely see each other with out all the stress, drama, and pain, I bet it will work out wonderfully in the future. If not, the next girl sure is a lucky one!

    I would try to talk to her more and tell her over and over agian (sometimes us girls need that) that you care for her so much that you want her to live life to the fullest and you realized taht you moved too fast and that's never good. I bet eventually she will understand. As long as you keep in touch with her like you would any of your friends, she'll beleive what you said was true and know that you did something to better her life. It will be appreciated and come back to you somehow.

    Good luck.
     
  7. NatureFreak412

    NatureFreak412 Art of Balance

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    Wow, thanks for your replies, thats helped me out a lot. Yeah she still says she doesnt understand why I did it, even though I keep trying to explain to her. But man thank you all so much for the replies, and if you all need my help for anything at all, just PM me and I will be there for ya! Thanks for the compliments and stuff as well!
     

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