ok. Im 14 and what i'm about to ask and shit is gonna make a few[if not ,alot] of you go off on me, but, fuck it. Ok, some of you know about the Me-loving-a-guy-who-lives-in-england senario. He's coming over in 2 years and I will be 16. But i have a question. Should I sleep with him when he comes? FIRST OFF! I do know that Andrew is not a child molester. my bestfriend Hannah has met him before. But the thing is, i went to andrews best friend to ask him if i should and i was exspecting him to say "Of course, you love him and the boy needs to be laid." but he said: "When Andrew comes to America, he is not gonna have a strong desire for sex on his mind. I didn't when I came and met your friend...and I'm much more sexually active that Andrew...by about a million percent. when he comes, if sex happens, it happens, enjoy it, it's great. if it don't you're still gonna have the happiest days of your life. that's what matters right?" But then I started thinking even more about this subject. What if Andrew comes to America, we have sex and the condom breaks and I get pregnant? There are now like 80 million ideas of what could go right and what could go wrong. So I ask: Do you think that I chould have sex with Andrew (my British lover boy) when he comes to America?
only you can decide that & if you take anyone elses advice then your a fool. nobody but you will ever know when the time ks right & u shouldnt try to decide ahead of ti,me wether u will or wont... you will when u do thats all u need to know
You got two years to worry about this. No need to rush it, eh? Personally, I wouldn't do anything like that the first time I met someone in person, but that's just me. Best of luck to ya!
Hes right. I have to say you may find someone else in those two years, so who knows. If it feels right then go for it, but dont push your self.
I know i have 2 years but i want to be ready and know when and how and everything to do to make it the this that ever happened to him. And I also know that the next 2 years are going to fly by until i can meet him face to face. God i love him.
well we aren't exactly together, but we have loved eachother for the past 5 months and have been speaking to each other for the past 8. I would have been talking to him like 3 months earlier, but he and i didn't really know each other and his best friend had been trying to get us to talk to each other for almost 6 months before we agreed to talk to each other. I'm so happy I agreed. If I hadn't, hell, i would be dating some arsehole from my school. ANd he has really given me new words and shit to say too. God i love him
Well, I wish you the best! No worries, everything will work out one way or another. For now, just focus on putting one foot in front of the other.
^ They all speak the truth. And as for the pregnancy, don't even worry about it. There are enough preventative measures that you can take in order to make sure it's 100% safe. If you have him use a condom and you start the pill like a month or two before he arrives then you have two layers of protection.
-its over two years away -you need to meet him in person before you decide yay/nay sex -you need to spend time with him first (its not like youre going to tear each others clothes off at the airport after all) -id recommend some time getting to know each others bodies. ie more than one night at least. first night makeout, next date heavy petting if you are both comfortable, etc basically... id plan to see how you feel when you finally get to spend time with him face to face and tak eit from there
