I'm 18 years old and have my first girlfriend (never been with anyone else, guys or girls). I'm really turned on by her and genuinly enjoy what we're doing, but I just can't seem to get wet? Same happens when masturbating. I fear that she will think that I'm not into her even tho I actually am, I can even cum, just don't get wet. It makes finger penetration kinda uncomfortable too so prefer just clitoral stimulation, or if there is a lot of saliva used before fingering. What should I do? I don't want her to think that I'm not enjoying myself and I'd also rather her be able to finger me as I otherwise like the sensation, apart from dryness.
Talk, be honest and get emotional If you say nothing then assumptions can only be made. Be open and mature in your relationship. You can't assume your partners mind either, maybe she is content and satisfied. Also dryness can be caused by a variety of reasons, try a decent lubricant or better still discuss it with your Doctor. Sx
You are far from alone. All the books say you get wet when you get excited ..... simply put, some girls just don't. Nothing wrong with you at all, your body just doesn't respond as you expect. just explain it - "that's the way I am." And if needed . that's why God invented KY!!!
Hi, I think what they say it's just right, talk with your partner, nothing is wrong with you, there're different types of people, some squirt (which sometimes is bad, you gotta clean your bed afterwards) and some are this way. I recommend you lubricant, it make everything less painfull while your experience with fingers.
You should be honest and talk to her. I'm sure her feelings will not be hurt once you tell her what's up. And you can try lubes or do talk with a doctor. Just communicate with your partner.
I developed that problem after my daughter was born 15 years ago. My wife and I had only been together for 3 years. Even though we talked about it, it took a while for it to sink in that it was really a me issue and not a her issue. That was after I had been to the doctor and run the gamut trying to find solutions. She finally accepted that it was an unfortunate effect of childbirth and we still deal with it. I use organic extra virgin coconut oil for lube and it is so much better that sticky my or the more expensive newer kinds. It doesn't work with condoms but that doesn't apply to us! Just keep reassuring her that your body likes her even if it doesn't respond traditionally. Use lube ASAP so you can have sex in a way that wetness would normally be involved. The more you both get on that different but new normal, the sooner you'll be feeling better.
I agree with every one here, talk to your doctor....and most importantly talk with your partner. If she is deep into you she will understand...as a last resort use a lubricant prior to having sex, showing lots of affection also works.
