Hey. Maybe you'll have some advice. I used to get really wet when I'd have sex or masturbate. I was really horny all the time. Now I've been with my boyfriend for a year and I hardly get wet at all. We use a lot of oil. I love oil. I still love sex and want to be with him. My theory for it is that in my other relationship that lasted over a year we hardly ever had sex. I wanted it more than him. We were in another country where people were more reserved and he didn't like to do it with the windows open or someone in the next room... or anything like that. He was also 10 years older than me. Not that that really means anything. Anyway, just looking at him or thinking about him used to make me really wet. I think a large part of this was cuz we never had much sex and I got turned down a lot. That just made me want it more! Now, my current boyfriend is the complete opposite! All I have to do is exist and he's ready! Which is very flattering. The only time he ever turned me down was when he was physically sick and thought he might puke. But I don't get as wet with him. Any thoughts? Saje
I think it's just that your having sex more often then you did with your other b/f. The less you have it the more your going to want it. If you do it when ever you want it.. you might just be use to it.. instead of spontanious, lusting urges. Maybe you can roel play or fool around with different things..it might make you want it more
I agree that it is probably because you are having sex much more often. Before I was married, I would get wet at the drop of a hat...now I get wet, but not to the same extent.
Yeah, that's what I figured. We do have sex spontaniously sometimes still - back of the movie theatre for example. But, yeah, he's been away for a few weeks so we'll see what happens! Thanks
i cant talk from experience with actual sex, but i can about being wet. i used to b sooooooooooooooo wet. soak through with just a thought wet...it was annoying lol but i didnt get any action AT ALL....and now that i fool around with my bf, i get wet, but iv been noticing in the past couple of weeks not as much...idk if it is suposed to happen that quickly or what, but like last weekend he was fingering me and when i went home my underwear werent as wet as usual...anyway, i think its just cus i get stuff more now...u no? same for u, foreplay, do interesting stuff, or refuse him for a bit hahah itll b hard but itll feel good, and ull prolly get more wet
There's lots of factors. You naturally get less wet as you get older...which is true even as you get into your 20's, not just into your 60's. Also, it really does make a difference how much water you drink. I find if I'm not paying enough attention to my water intake, like in the summer or something, I'll have a hard time getting wet. Nerves affect my wetness factor alot, too, but, it doesn't sound like that is an issue with you. So, I don't know. I also really really believe that there is a difference between how much your body is attracted to someone and how much you are mentally attracted to them. I think that you can mentally really really want someone, but, if the "pheremones" aren't there or whatever, you can't change physiology. Does any of that make sense?
it could be that nervousness or worry about not getting wet might aggravate the problem, and actually make it hader for you to get wet! try using a lube for awhile. you'll be less worried about wetness, and the wetness will come easier naturally. lubes are wonderful, they feel great, and make for safer and more satisfying sex.
Yeah I think our stressing about problems like my not getting wet and not always coming (unless I masturbate) definitely doesn't help. We need to work on that. Thanks
i used to get really wet when i was younger (it was really annoying) but now it's not as much as before... perhaps we get less wetness as we get older oh man i really need to get some...just to see if i still can get wet
