I could use some opinions on this.

O.K,last summer i started a new job and met this guy Matt.He's 19,smart,great sense of humor,long hair,great body,and ,we hit it off really well from the second we met!Now,I'm not out at work,and he seemed straight to me,so i didn't persue anything.We only worked together for a month,then he left for school the end of August.He was back for the holiday break,and it was great to see him again!Now,mind you,we haven't hung out together outside of work.we were gonna get together for drinks around christmas,but that didn't happen.Well,I was leaving one day,and said something that could've been taken in a sexual way;just joking around.He turns around,smiles and says"picture that".i laugh,and he says"no really,picture that!"Then,couple days later,i was goofing with him,and he says "blow me",so i say"whenever you want".There were several more times where we've gone back and forth with the sexual stuff.I think he's just testing the waters with me. I've said enough without actually saying"yeah,I'm gay,and i really,really like you",and so has he.I've never been in this situation before;i don't wanna screw up our friendship if he's not gay,by saying the wrong thing.I just can't think of any other reasons he would say the stuff he has,other than he likes me!Well,this has been helpful to put this all down here(god,i just realized this is all one HUGE paragraph;I must be rambling!),he's back for Feb. break next week,so we'll see what happens.I'll keep you guys posted.Peace.Rich.

 

Grab his ass!!

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You're both into each other. Ask yourself if you are satisfied with 'just friends.' Doesn't even matter what his reaction is. Know what you want and go from there.

 

If you want to do subtle, just try and engineer one of those scenarios where you can hold his eye contact, and see what happens. If you find yourselves staring into each other's eyes, that's a good sign.

 

Yeah just grab his package one day, and say "nice"
and if he backs off, then you know he isn't interested...lol

 

Dude, I'm a committed gayer, but if someone did that to me I'd probably just slug them.

 

Grabbing ANY part of him has crossed my mind several times,but I'd never do that out of nowhere(down the road,HELL YEAH,but not now).Yeah,we really need to chill together,and see what happens.I can't wait for next week!!

 

Commited gayer? That's a new one. But I agree, nobody grabs me without an ivatiation. Or I should say, nobody does it twice.

You got some serious banter going on at work with that dude, treyola. Must make the day go fast. I doubt he's funning you. If you're in the closet, he's going to follow your lead. Listen, straight boys don't normally flirt even in jest, they're more afraid of being called queer than a gay boy. You gotta go out with him. Hell, even if he is staight, he's shown you he's cool with "it," so even if you do proposition him serious, that's no reason for him to drop the friendship. Maybe he's gay and flirting but not "interested." Only one way to find out. Well, two, but don't crotch grab him, okay? :X

ps. the return key is on the right of the keyboard, if you use it the paragraphs are shorter and don't seem to ramble so much.

 

Yeah Mychal,that's what i was thinking;he's not gonna joke/flirt.Straight guys would give the"no,dude.I don't fly that way",or something to that effect after the first time ,or maybe second.And most times,HE brings it.

 

B-I-N-G-O-! We got a winner!

 

I found out his first day back at work is next Sunday.I think I'll pop in(I never work Sundays)and say I looked at the schedule,saw he was on,and came in to say "hi".I 'll also tell him that i missed him,and say we've gotta hang out while he's back.I figure stopping by just to see him on my day off,saying the other stuff,and leaving...short and sweet.That should give him something to ponder the rest of the day!I'm gonna ask him out to lunch on Monday as well.Sound like a plan?

 

sounds like a good plan to me...


good luck.

 

that does sound like a good plan. good luck and I hope it all works out for you.

 

BTW,thank you guys for the input!Starting this thread,typing my feelings out,and your comments helped me get my head together on this one.It's been on my mind for a few weeks now(pretty much all the time)and now i can focus.i promise i'll get back here to let you guys know how it's going

 

good luck!

 

Ya, can't wait to hear how it goes. It's always kinda tricky trying to figure out who is gay and who isn't, if they don't specifically tell you. That's why being gay can suck so much at times.

 

Yeah, I think a lot of the time it's more because you're worried about how they'll react, and you feel stupid because you know most people won't mind answering a question like that even if they're straight, but you worry that if they do flip out they could flip out A LOT.

 

Yeah.. I just tell myself that if they do flip out, it's good for me to know, because I wouldn't want to be even close friends with anyone that would flip out about that.

 

Just keep in mind that some people would be sexual with you, but not want to kiss. Do you know what I mean? He might be like that, so don't get signs mixed up.

 

I'm not worried anymore.Straight boys don't usually toss around homosexual innuendos amongst each other over and over,or tell each other with a straight face that they'd please each other in certain ways,do they?I think everything's gonna be cool.

 

Doesn't sound like any straight boy I ever knew. Good luck!