I could not be more pissed

What is it with fucking men and computers. My dude is a fucking computer addict and I am sick of it. He pays more attention to that god damn box of wires and tubes then he does to me. It is really depressing and down right infuriating.

 

lol Yeah, I had one of those. I'm divorcing him as we speak.

 

hey mama it could be worst. He could be into other girls. Suggest taking a walk or something. Sometimes it's so hard to get men off of their computers, video games, and tv. Men have a one tracked mind!

 

lose 30 pounds.

 

I have one of them too.
I just found a few things I like to do that involves me ignoring him. When he stared to get kinda annoyed, I asked him how it felt. He still is on it a lot, but not nearly what he used to. Plus it doesn't bug me as much anymore cuz I have my own stuff to do now.

 

*spits Pepsi all over my box of wires and tubing*

Can't.Stop.Laughing.

VNG, that aside, I understand your anger and my ex-husband is going to be paying dearly for his general idiotness during our marriage.

 

hey i got one them guys too he is either watching tv, on the computer, sleeping, eating, or working out. i just ignored him and do what i have to do for the day.

 

quite possiably the funniest thing I've heard all day

My hubby used to spend a fair amount of time on the computer. We talked about it, and agreed to there being times which were "us time" and times that were "computer time". It worked well.

 

Can't beat 'em, join 'em.

The best couples out there are the ones that share hobbies. If he's a gamer, then check it out, see what he's playing and give it a shot yourself. You might be surprized at the results.

 

luckily in my relationship, we're BOTH computer junkies, so I can't complain...haha...

 

Ach, my dh works with computers ALL day long at work. He never touches one at home. BUT, he has issue with the fact that the kids and I like to use them. He was raised in a home where if you weren't "WORKING" you were wasting your time. His mother can't sit down and read a book, at the age of 76, because she "feels guilty for not getting anything done." I tried telling her that she was expanding her mind (hey, my inlaws could really use some mind expansion) and my FIL looks right at me and says "Yeah? Well, some people are book smart and every day dumb." I guess that was aimed at me, shit....I don't care......Anyway, My dh has to give the a "report" whenever they call. When they call and ask "What are you doing today?" or "What are you going to do." (like yesterday, when his mother calls at EIGHT O CLOCK on Sunday morning!!!!) They don't want to hear, "Oh, we're gonna hang around, maybe take the kids to Kiddie Land, and read the paper." They want to hear what he's going to fix, what he's going to build, what tools he's going to use, what new wing he's going to put on the house, how many weeds he's pulling, how much laundry I am going to do, what gigantic cleaning project is going to be undertaken (they really need to lay off that, ain't happenin in my house) ect. So, he has to give them a data sheet report on his plans for the day, week ect.

As a result, HE can't relax. He only sits down at the computer "to get information." He can't really relax, and it really really sux. He starts making "projects" up, when we are using the computers. Yesterday (we got Moon a new PC for her graduation) Moon was showing me how to use the SIMS2 to make a family to mess around with, I don't have a lot of time for it, but I was making a really cute little hippy family, and he starts ragging that "someone" needed to clean the refrigerator. WTF?

I think he might actually enjoy using the computer, if he could convince himself he is "accomplishing" something. So, at our place, he isn't the one who spends time on the computer.

When we first started living together, though, it would really bug me when he would ignore me. He would be doing one of his "projects" and wouldnt talk ect. My family is very social. My dad's idea of a good Sunday is to go to a museum or an Art Gallery or a Frank Loyd Wright house walk ect. In my dh's family they NEVER did things like this. They mowed the lawn, painted something which probably didn't need to be or cleaned something. Bear had only been to the Field Museum and the Museum of Science and Industry (two of the best museums in the country, and just a few miles from where we grew up) for school field trips. His parents never took him anywhere, they didn't even go out to dinner. It amazed me that he didn't have a LIBRARY card, WHO doesn't have a library card? In my family, you get one right after the Christening.

I think it comes down to what people were raised to think of as "using time." My parents use computers, for info and fun, because they like to learn ect. But, not as a way to ignore people, for the most part. My dh's parents don't even OWN a computer. ("I don't know nothing about how to do that." is his mother's excuse. Well NO ONE did, we all had to learn.)

VNG, is it the COMPUTER that is bothering you, OR the fact that he is ignoring you? My guess is, it is being ignored, rather than what he does when he uses the computer. I don't blame you at all for that. I know people are going to say "talk to him" but if he was raised to ignore people, that won't help much, unless you have a counselor in the room.

Despite my own venting, I wish I had more to tell you. Bear (my man of 28 years) was supposed to spend Friday evening with me, and instead spent it WATCHING the fucking baseball game with his buddy. I was REALLY angry at first, but at least he was being social, instead of sitting there ALONE, getting drunk, watching the game. (OMG, the White Sox had a EIGHTEEN INNING GAME yesterday, imagine my JOY......as he bolted his dinner in 5 minutes to go back in the living room, while the rest of us were still eating)

We, as womyn, want to be social, they, as men, want......oh hell, I don't know what they want.....aside from sex, booze, food and sports, sometimes.....my favorite thing is to be ignored most of the day, and then have him come to bed horny. "But, we didn't see each other all day!" he whines, maybe if we HAD, you'd have a better chance......He usually gets some anyway, though, I just can't use it as a tool, that would be too mean.

As you can see, I have ABSOLUTELY no advice........sorry.

 

Can I start a petition against my dh talking to his parents? LOL.

 

You know, your DH parent's sound a LOT like my brother's girlfriend's parents. Like to a tee. They call everyday... fucking EARLY in the morning, asking what they are doing today, and they cant say, "Oh we are probably going to rent some movies, make some pizza, smoke some pot, and take the kids to the park." It has to be "We are going to start a compost pile, put up a fence, clean the garage" etc, etc... It's fucked up!

Although, Maggie Sugar, you are gonna like this one. Her dad is VERY ocd (self-diagnosed!!!) that he has shoes he wears when he drives, shoes he wears in the garage, shoes he wears in the house, shoes he wears in the SHOWER!! And everytime he takes a piss or shits or whatever, he MUST take a shower. No matter what. It's pretty fucking weird. He wont let his daugher burn incense, or candles, and all the water they drink MUST come from bottles--Heaven forbid if the water comes from the TAP!!!!

::edit:: I just realized I may have come off as shitty for dissing someone with OCD. I dont mean it like that, but.... he tends to use his "diease" (i put in quotations because he hasnt been diagnosed at all) as a way to... get his way?? I'm really not sure how to explain this... so maybe this post is pointless. My bad. ::edit::

Parents suck... but they are obviously here to stay, and they are nice to have around every once in a while....

 

Solution: More Sex

 

Oh Maggie!!!! I would remove the telephone from the home and invest in snarling pitbulls trained to attack the in-laws.

What right do thy have to be so invasive?? Absolutely none. You are strong and tolerant woman.

 

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Ha ha! Here's an extention of the 'can't beat em, join em' possibilities.

 

LOL same here! In fact, our courting period was spent mostly chatting on MSN with eachother. . . .

OK, I just added nothing to this thread. Carry on.

 

hahahahah.... that made me giggle.... Carry on... hahahah