he hates to talk about it, he hates making a fuss about money, like.. I still owe him all this money and yet he wants to take me out, and pay for things, while I just feel guilty.. but he doesn't want it to be an issue - and I mean - I don't either, but I can't help feeling guilty and needing to talk about it..
Feelings don't fill the bank account or repay the debt. I probably wouldn't want to talk about it either...'cause after 6 months, talk is talk and the 'oh I feel bad, I'm gonna repay you back' gets really grating. Action speaks louder than words. Is he actively bugging you about repayment? If he isn't, then he's probably being as polite about it as he can. He's got a sour deal so far and he probably doesn't want to be constantly reminded of it.
He didn't give her the condoms..... .....her RA did. that makes them HERS. don't you remember the thread?
. he is not at all bugging me about it. keeps saying it's okay. but it's not. i am in debt and so are my parents and have been for months now. all my paychecks have gone to paying off my debts plus help my parents too - so he says he understands our situation etc. but.. the thing is.. I just can't even bring up the topic of money in general, he gets in such a bad mood! but sometimes - it's important!
yeah, i do now. ok, dump him, keep the money, keep the condoms, inject him with HIV, and stick his toothbrush in your butt and put it back for him to use.
of course he wants to be paid back. still, if there's no real chance of it happening right now, then it would be pointless for him to dwell on it. he also wants to continue having sex, so he can't exactly go all loan shark on her or anything. i have a friend who owes me a comparable amount of money and has for a while now. there's absolutely no way for her to pay me back at the moment, so i'd rather not worry about it at the moment either, and we rarely talk about it. and she's not even sleeping with me...
is Penny in the usa, if she knew how it felt to be fucked in the ass every pay-day.. She'd understand.
When you love someone, money really isn't THAT big of a deal. And if it is...man, I'd hate to be loved by the person it's a big deal to.
I think that he just doesnt think money is a big deal, and doesnt want it to effect the relationship at all. so he doesnt want to talk about it, no one owes anyone anything, when you can pay him back, then its cool. he doesnt really care. and if hes the kind of guy that doesnt like to talk about issues immediately, and needs a couple of days to think things over, then you should just let him have a couple days when you talk about things. sacrifice that, and he would feel at more ease to talk to you. sometimes ppl get freaked out about certain problems, and dont want to be rushed into the conversation immediately.