ok. this is kinda a stupid story and i know you're all gonna be like "oh your only 14 blah blah blah." and i seriously don't care. this is getting on my nerves and i need help. ok. so about 2 years ago, i met this british dude on the internet and we talked and blah blah blah. i met him when i went to england. he wasn't a rapest. or like 1000. well i came back to america. and then this last christmas holiday he came over for two weeks. then he left. and i got a boyfriend, whos been my on and off boyfriend for like 3 years. well the british boy (his names ben) is pissed that im with another boy, and he has right to be. but i love my boyfriend (austin) with all my heart. and ben doesn't seem to get that. i mean like i still love ben but in a different way. in more of a brothery kinda way, verse the romantic way. but everytime i call ben, him and his friends bash on austin. all the time. and they don't fucking stop. its just like "hes an arse. you should leave him and go back with ben. he loves you more than austin ever could." and im all like "well how the hell do you know how much austin loves me?" and it goes on. i hate that he keeps bagging on my man. i love him. and i hate when ben does it. it makes me so mad and it makes me start to hate him. the more he does it, the more i don't want to talk to him. sigh. i really don't know what to do. all ben does is ask who do you love more? and i can't answer that. i love them both the same but in a different way. and now hes all pissed off at me and i really don't want to deal with it. i dunno what to do. anyone wanna help me?
I think you already know what to do. You've been with Austin for 3 years on and off, and you love him in a romantic way. You've only seen Ben a couple of times, and he lives in a different country. Not only that, but he has no respect for the guy you're with, or for the decision you're making by being with Austin. If Ben was truly a decent stable guy he'd get his head out of his ass and be respectful of you, and quietly stick by as your friend until this guy leaves. If he truly believes Austin is no good he'd be wise and have no problem doing so. So from what you've told us, my advice would be to stick with Austin and make it clear to Ben that you do not like him in a romantic way and don't wish to have a relationship with him. And if his boyfriend bashing bothers you as much as you claim it does tell him that unless he stops you're done talking to him, and stick by that.
i agree with forward, the british dude is unable to respect you, your bf or your request for him to be polite and therefor should simply be cut out of your life. if your having a bad day you can take it out on him by telling him why you no longer want to talk to him
Bottom line here is.... if Ben really cared about u (in any way) he wouldn't be saying things that make u feel bad.
Babe, Andrew means well, he's just doesn't realize this shit because he wants the best for ben, And Andrew believes that you are best for Ben.I will talk to andrew about it and tell him to stop because Austin's also my friend.
