I can't seem to cum during sex... only when masturbating

I'm 18 and lost my virginity two nights ago. I thought I would be a typical virgin and climax very soon after starting, but minutes went by with no embarrassing issue. Minutes eventually turned into hours.. over 3 hours.. and I still didn't ***. I was fully erect the entire time but I just couldn't seem to ***. She on the other hand lost count. The next night we got together again and I had the same issue.

But when I masturbate I can climax in a few minutes. Is it because I'm used to it? Did I desensitise my penis by masturbating so much in the past without any lotion or lube? How can I fix this? As much as I love pleasuring her for hours.. I want to get that sensation too.

 

Oh little fawn it's not uncommon u will find its a wonderful thing that will make a lot of people very happy

 

Thanks.. I guess it's a good problem to have! It would just be nice to get the FULL experience, but as the unselfish lover that I am I guess this situation fits me pretty well.

 

Make her give you hand jobs

 

Well sometimes it takes a certain kinda someone to get us that full experience

 

Thanks again. I think the nerves contributed to a lot of the problem. I was focusing so much on what I was doing and making her happy that I didn't really take in what was happening and how it felt.

Today I was completely relaxed after smoking with her and after 40 minutes or so it finally happened. I guess it's all a mentality thing.

 

I didn't finish my first few times either. You need to learn what angles and motions are going to do it for you. No different than for a woman really.