I had been going out with a guy for the last 2 months.. Things have been sooooo Messed up between us.. When I met him he was living with his EX!! whome he had has baby with.. They were split up, so I forced him to move out. I dont even know why I gave him a chance, I shoulda ran right away.. But no.. I gave him the benefit of the doubt, and he shat all over it. I got him a job, and he fucked it up.. I bent over backwards for him all the time, just to try to set him on the right path... But he took me for granted.. Last saturday I was really drunk, and he picked me up from the Club.. He took me back to his friends house, where we drank some whisky together.. I went downstairs and passed out on somones bed, and when I came too... He was fucking me!!!!! I couldnt Friggen believe it.. I told him to get off twice before he actually did.. Then we got into a HUGE fight.. I told him to grow up, and he kicked me out... (in a nut shell) About 15 min of stumbling down the street later, he pulled up and demanded me to get in the car.. I refused and he yelled at me again.. So I got in, and he drove me to a friends house... Without so much a hint of remorse across his face, he sped away.. I couldnt believe it.. I just sat there and cried for like half an hour, hoping he would come back and apologise to me.. but no.. So I gathered my barings and told my friend everything that happened... she was pissed, her boyfriend was even madder.. I havent spoken with him since.. I have really bad luck with relationships..
Aw hun. This is not about having bad luck in relationships tho.. we all have our bad experiences and that's not something to regret, but to learn from it. He's a real asshole and maybe you're right about the fact that u should've run away when u had the change because of this background and stuff, but we humans tend to do the opposite of what we're supposed to because of our doomed nature. Anyways, what i think is that you should try ur best to move on, cause this guy definately sucks as a partner, and he has no respect for you. that's what pisses me off. You need to find a guy who cares for you as u care for him, look how u did all those things for him and he screwed everything up, that means he doesn't give a damn about anything. You deserve someone way better than that cause u seem to be a great gal and very smart. Don't feel bad about this, everything happens for a reason and this is not a bad thing, this is good cause u got rid of that bastard in time before something worst happened. Look forward and move on, you will find a better guy and you will laugh about this in no time. Good luck and take care of urself. if u wanna talk sometime, feel free to PM me ill be more than happy to chat with ya
Stay away from him, you're much better off. He sounds like a total loser. You deserve better than that. {{{Huge Hugs}}}
thats a horrible thing! wow stay away from him the abuse is only gonna get worse. be strong hun, itll be hard at first, but time really does heal all wounds. and dont ever think that any of this is your fault, or that you over reacted. learn from this and grow stonger.
Thanks so much for the positive support.. I really needed it lol. Everyone of my friends dissliked him, from the first time they met.. I should'a also trusted their instincts.. but hey.. what can ya do right ? . I'll move on, hopfully my nest relationship will be a better one .. It can only go up from here.
Uh, wow. You're better off without him, sorry that happened. As for what he did while you were passed out, it's called rape. Press charges.
Shadowd, nobody deserves that kind of treatment. You went out of your way to help this idiot & all he did in return was disrespect you. I can't really say that you should have run, because I have been in a similar situation & I did not run myself! Atleast now you know how big of a jerk-off this guy really is & you didn't waste too much time. Technically what he did to you was rape. You might think about pressing charges against him. I am so sorry you had to go through something like that. We all know that what goes around comes around though....
You really should. He had sex with you while you were unconscious. Think about how fucked up that is. He shouldn't be allowed on the streets till he realised what he has done. He will probably do this to other women. He doesn't even think he's done anything wrong. Just because you were with him doesn't mean that wasnt a complete invasion of your body. He has taken something from you. You might not realise now but this is going to have an effect on you. By the time you see how much of an effect, it may be too late. Seriously consider it friend, this needs healing whether you know it now or not. Please look into the after affects of rape and don't let him get away with this violation of human rights. Much love sister, and there are beautiful men out there who will respect your body and love you. Dont look back.
*huggles* men can be such jerks sometimes... i know its such a cliche but you will find someone that's good for you as my sig says live each day as if it was your last so love like you've never been hurt before
I'm in hell right now too. My bf of over three months whom i loved unconditionally broke up with me. he's bi-polar and addicted to some drugs. he said he loves me but duznt wanna hurt me worse later on cuz he's bound to do something stupid what with all his partying and all! but then we had a huge fight and now we aren't even going to be friends. he used me. he broke my heart. he threw me away. i have bad luck too. and i think i have issues with men. and robbie's never saying sorry cuz he doesn't love me like i love him. i feel like death.
consider yourself lucky that you found out he was an ass before you were with him for too long. Two months is just a flicker in the spectrum of life. I'd also say press charges on him for trying to rape you. And if you don't, you aren't taking much pride in yourself or your body.
