Last night while haning out with a bunch of guys, i noticed one of them was being REALLY quiet... while everyone eles was drunk as hell, danicng etc.. I went over and talked with him.. I asked him if he worked, he said "yes". I asked him if he goes to college/uni he replied "yes." I went on asking a bunch of other conversation starters, and he answered all my questions with a one word answer.. he didnt ask me anything.. I didnt know what to do.. I has thought of everything to ask him, and make him feel comfortable.. nothing worked.. he was drunk too, but still no luck getting him to talk to me.. I found him fairly attractive, so i was really interested as to why he was so shy... any ideas?? what could i do next time to make him feel more comfortable around me.. . thanks for the advise peoples.
ask him a question that can't be answered with one word; be more confrontational. Some guys need that extra push. Ask him something that he seems like he would be interested in, ask him why he's there, especially if he's just going to be so quiet. Ask him something philosophical...
I dont think he was... I had seen him talk with his close friends and stuff.. but when i tried to introduce my self and stuff he dwas just really shy and quiet.. i talked with one of his friends and he said that he is generally a shy guy...
maybe he was intimidated by you? sometimes ill get like that with fine girls. you gotta get me to open up usually. maybe you werent his type and he didnt like what you were talkin about with him and didnt feel like bullshittin you to try get some pussy screw
trust me i asked all of thoughs things, and talked about more stuff that "I" didnt think you could answer with one word .. haha but he found a way to do it..
im the same way today i was in a room with like 6 people smoking a blunt one was my best friend the other two im firends with i didnt realy know the others but i didnt say more then about 3 setences in about a hour and a half,at partys i wont talk to people i dont like partys and i feel alone and become withdrawn,try and get him out of the room so hes not around all the other people when im around alot of people i get uncomterable,ask someone that knows about stuff hes into and talk to him about that if yo find something hes passonit about he will probly talk more
i dont think he would have been intimidated by me haha.. humm.. i also dont think he is the "TYPE" of guy to just use a girl for pussy... your very pessimistic arnt you?
LOL this guy sounds exactly like me, and it's why I don't go to the bar anymore. Maybe he just felt out of place...not really into the bar scene maybe? He could've just been out with friends for the hell of it. He could have had other things on his mind that night? If you ever see him again, ask him!
make yourself "appear" humiliated? like kinda imbarrass urself on purpose in front of him... If he has some empathetic cells in his brain he'll prolly go out of his way to reassure u he doesnt think u should be "ashamed"... The reason i think of that, is if u imagine urself in his shoes... Imagine feeling really self concious and a new girl comes over to u and makes an ass out of herself, but in a silly kinda way... if u were him wouldnt u feel like u could let ur guard down? I.E., say something like "you know I've got a really crappy memory, But i'm not sure when the last time I brushed my teeth was. It couldn't have been longer than 5 or 6 days" ye know wut i mean? like something so ridiculously imbarrassing he wont be able to not laugh out loud... Either that u he'll spray u with lysol....
how would you know what type of guy heis if you couldnt even get him to open up? i think i know a little more about men than you, considering im 1. shit, maybe he thinks youre ugly? i pretty much ignore nasty girls that come up to me tryin to fuck with me screw
TRUST me!! i Embarrased my self ALOT that night haha.. We wernt at a bar, we were at a friends house.. I think everytime i did something ditzy or "blonde" (i am really good at it) he just thought i was a geek... ha.. o well.. what can ya do.. hehe
he might think i am ugly.. i dont know.. but no self respecting guy would refuse to talk to an ugly girl.. would they?? thats just low.
humm... well i guess im ugly and thats why he didnt want to chat.. i feel REALLY great right now.. thanks .
He was probably just in a foul mood, or else drank a little too much and didn't want to make an ass of himself.
well you are Certainly not ugly... and i don't think anybody would think so. i must admit i am kinda shy and quiet at parties, myself... (not a guy though) and when i'm smoking i get even more so... drinking, it kinda depends... but maybe he's the type to shut down while drunk rather than it working as a social lubricant? maybe he's a little more easygoing when he's sober... i wish i had some advice, but it sounds like you tried your hardest... if he keeps it up i'd lay off of him, he might just be uninterested for some reason... (doesn't like girls, has his eyes on somebody else, something else going on-nonsexually, etc, etc)
uh yea. i thought you wanted the truth? im trying to help you out and tell it liek it is. i dont know how you look or anything screw
thats all im trying to do my bad if i hurt your feelings or anythinglike thatbut i gotta tell it like it is from a guys point of view screw