I broke the heart of someone!

Well, let me confess today that she was my cousin. I started liking her when I was 20 (let me remind that I am 24 at the moment). I asked her whether she liked someone or not. She said that she was single and she could think about me. I thus got a green signal from her and fell in love. I started calling her (She lived in another city) and we chatted for hours. I ensured her that I'd be there for her forever. She said that she also loved me and we were really happy.

She then asked me to marry her and I was ready but somehow I didn't proceed because I thought that at that time, I was not at all settled in life and was studying as well. She became annoyed and gave me warning that she'd leave me despite that she loved me a lot. I couldn't make a timely decision and eventually lost her. She married someone else and went to Canada.

I still regret that and still love her a lot. I know she loves me as well, because before leaving for Canada, she said that she still loved me but perhaps we two were not made for each other.

:bigcry::bigcry::bigcry:

 

That before the fact she is your cousin?

 

Methinks The Title Of This

Thread Should Have Read....."Someone Broke MY Heart"....



Cheers Glen.

 

This marriage thing really cracks me up. Marry me and love me forever or I'll marry someone else and love him forever.

Twu wub.

 

That she became annoyed to your reasonable response to her request tells me you're better off without her. Why would you want to spend the rest of your life with someone who responds to reason with annoyance?

 

Yeah...'cause that's the weirdest thing going on here

 

I honestly don't know what to say to things like this...

 

Hahahahahah, lol, lol, lol..................................:rofl:

I didn't mean that actually. Just placed "that" at the wrong place.

 

if you had plans of having children, marring your cousin is usually not a super idea


the whole thing sounds a little unstable anyways

hopefully you and the gene pool will be better of for your having parted ways


hope that you can find someone that you like better soon!

 

Perhaps you are right. But I was the culprit in this situation. I realized later on that she was right. I was the one who was wrong. This is the reason why I believe that I broke her heart rather than she broke my heart. :bigcry:

 

I am afraid that your stance is actually right. Perhaps, I was and probably still am in so much love with her that her annoyance never made me feel bad.

 

I am not very familiar with the "genetics" thing. But I think that not always cousin marriages or offsprings give rise to problematic kids.

Thanks for your wish. I have though now decided to stay single forever.

 

it's not always a problem, I think. depends on how closely related you are

the more closely related you are, the more likely you are to pass on a defective gene

some people decide that they are just not cut out for relationships, and I think that is reasonable

it seems, however, that you really wanted to be in a relationship, but now feel that your cousin was the only woman you could ever love

given the way you have described her, it seems like your relationship to her was destined to be volatile

maybe go see a therapist about this

if what you really want is to be in a relationship, staying single forever in martyrdom to your lost love sounds like a bad idea

 

Well right. Okay. So she was my first cousin, which means that the chances of passing defective genes were maximum. Good for us, both in that case!
No, believe me, I didn't decide to stay single forever just because of my cousin. I now feel that I am not a kind of person who is able to sustain relationships like these. Definitely, I realized this thing quite lately, otherwise I wouldn't have initiated that thing.

 

Both of these.

 

Well KNOWN RELATIVES are not really supposed to reproduce,etc........

You had alot of courage telling her how you felt though bud!

 

Why is it so? Are you saying this in terms of genetic disorders? Please clarify? Thanks. :thanks:

 

Yes relatives genes are too close a match usually to be able to develop w/o any problems (Or so i have read) and if ya go by the bible buddy,WE ARE ALL RELATED which would explain why some have babies with things not right (God bless them) so maybe it IS true,WE ARE ALL RELATED!!


Hmmmmmmm

 

Al right. So it means that it was good for both of us perhaps, at least in terms of future generations. :juggle:

 

You don't want kids anyway. Be glad that your decision compliments your situation. good luck with your true love.