I Am Proud, But My Parents Are Religious

Hi! My name is Kaira and I am new in this forum. I am 16 years old and I've known my sexuality for 4 years now. It was really hard at first because I had been raised in a home where being gay was a sin worse than being a murderer. My first girlfriend was the one who showed me that I didn't needed to be ashamed of who I was. Now, I am really proud of being gay. But if my parents found out, they would throw me out of home. So I hope that I will found counseling and acceptance here, because I am really screwed and confused. Thank you ladies!!!

 

Everyone and every situation is a little different. If you know for a fact that you want to tell them and you also know that all hell is going to break loose....then I guess the only question is....when is the right time to tell them? I don't think anyone knows the answer to that more than you do because it's your parents.

I've never been in the situation where I had to come out to my parents and I don't know for sure what I would do (actually...my parents would have been fine with it anyway) but....I think that if I were in your situation I might wait until later just for my own benefit. I would probably wait until after I graduated high school at least and maybe even until I knew I could take care of myself no matter the outcome. But that's just me.

I get the impression that if you tell them now, they will act like it's the end of the world, maybe try to take you to church to "pray the gay away", involve the church in something that is your private business, etc. I think at 16, that may be overwhelming and create a lot of negativity in your life at a time when you should be enjoying your teen years. I'm not saying you shouldn't tell them now but it seems like telling them when you are legally in control of yourself would possibly save you a lot of problems that them now being in control of you could create for the next few years.

But I think you will find acceptance here on Hip Forums. Lot's a good people here so stick around and don't be afraid to ask about whatever developments arise.

 

Stuff your parents, they'll come crawling back when no one else comes to visit them

 

Lots of cool people here with really good advice. You'll enjoy it.