I am one of those girls now

I am one of those girls who let a guy hit her. Totally beaten, for no reason, except misguided anger.

As much as I know that I'll never have to put up with that from him again, I am still embarrassed that now, I'm one of those girls.

 

You deserve better than such pathetic cowards! Hearing of such makes me mad...

 

dont see yourself as someone that let a guy hit you
it in no way is your fault

 

I know I deserve better. That's why I'm not taking him back. For any reason. I don't care if he goes though counseling or whatever, I'm not taking him back.

I just thought that I was a stronger girl, than let myself be put in that position to begin with.

 

Really, you're making it sound like it was your fault. It's not. You loved him, that doesn't make you bad. And I doubt that you "let" him - I imagine you were trying to not get hurt as much as possible at the time. Letting him hit you would be if you took him back, knowing it would happen again. Then maybe, I could understand the way you put it, but because some guy is an angry person is not your fault. And I don't care how it started or what was said - any guy who thinks he wins an argument by hitting his girl, wins nothing.

 

You have nothing to be embarassed about. Nothing. He should be the one who is embarassed, not you.

 

where are you? i got money for a plane ticket and if you got a place i can stay then ill fly and beat his ass for you...thats oent hing i dont tolerate, puttin hands on a female is straight pussy

 

Most of us are weak in many ways, this is the nature of humans so don't let your weaknesses daunt you!

 

Perhaps not the most rational way to deal with it and... your chinese, that man is out for alot of trouble ^^

 

But you don't have to leave somebody just because they hit you ... in my opinion....my first husband hit me all the time it was seriously a nightly ordeal but when my daughter started to walk and talk there was no more "trying to deal with it" from me I made plans, got up the nerve and left it was really hard....but not because I was afraid to be alone but because I felt like I failed him and let my daughter down. Now I'm remarried (ugh) and I truely love my husband but he has hit me and even though I told myself I would never "deal" with that again I found myself staying and its been awhile since he's done that and I think he's really working on controlling himself more... I'm not sure how to say what I'm trying to say but maybe just reading this makes me feel like I should defend myself and maybe him too.... am I completely wrong in dong so?

 

dont say your one of 'those girls'. thats a label, and thats a category. and thats a bunch of bull. everyone makes mistakes, doesnt mean your weaker, it means your stronger cause your not dead yet.

nobody is considered strong because they dont get trapped into anything that 'those girls' do, strong women are strong because theyve gone through shit....and get back up. the strong woman isnt the girl in the cafe that was a virgin until marrage and has had everything handed to her on a silver plater and was never on of 'those girls'. the strong women is a single mother who had her child at 16 and has just celebrated her graduation from college.

you think you were a stronger girl, but now you are stronger.

 

Please, support your husband if you must, but do not let yourself become a punching bag. Controlling yourself is not something you work on, it is something you DO.

 

*hugs* I can totally feel for you, Heady...

But please don't label yourself or put yourself down. You are in control of your actions not his REACTIONS. Don't ever forget it. You didnt put his hands on you. He did.

 

Sadly, I would beat your ass to!

 

And then I would beat HippyFreak to a pulp.

 

sorry my last post was kind of off the subject... and I totally agree with most everybody else don't label yourself "one of those girls" just do what is right for you

 

You know what you slimy little maggot. This girl has a real problem...needs support and help. She doesnt need your sad attempt at vile humour. So kindly piss off! Goddammit, show some respect!

 

Let the beating commence!

 

try it. I'll sit on you and smother your skinny ass, you dumb fucker.

 

Quit being a fat ho!