Well Alexander has been very good with the baby since she was born so Thank God that isnt my issue. However he hasnt been listening to me at all. He yells at me ignores me and of course the big one when I put him to bed he runs a muck and tends to make a HUGE mess of his room. I actually spanked his little bum today!!! (BTW I am not a believer in spanking....so this is a big deal for me)I felt HORRIBLE and still do. I didn't spank him while I was mad or else I would have never forgiven myself but It has resorted to a spank and even then he didnt listen to me. I have tried EVERYTHING that I know. I have alone time with him. I let him hang out with me and baby so that he knows mommy love him as well. I don't let him get away with anything that I wouldn't normally do. I am slightly more stric now since he has broken the keyboard, we have gone to a no tollorance with the computer and him leaving the room we are in with out us to watch him. So he gets a time out right away. He gets time outs which Normally work but for some reason not anymore. Or at least with me. If bryan put him in a TO he would stay but with me he oncwe again leaves his time out area and goes to play..(Unfortunatly I cannot be with him all the time anymore with time outs like we used to do...) Im seriously at my wits end right now. I have yelled/firmly grr'd him soooo much today that I am about to lose it. What on earth am I doing wrong???