I’am confused about my sexuality

Hello I’am Aurora . I’am 27 years old recently I have questioning my sexuality . I don’t know if I’am lesbian or only asexual . I have never been in a relationship neither with a girl or boy. I never considered a boy attractive . But I find girls attractive

 

I think you’re a lesbian

 

Ok I have this doubt in these last months but I don’t know if I ve never e been in relationship is related my eith personal issue

 

I wish for you a loving friend, companion, lover, and playmate; whether a boy, girl, someone in between, or neither.

 

you on ssris?

 

Personal issues I didn’t have a good family background

 

On the surface it sounds like your lesbian, time will tell

 

Just let it ride. Give yourself some time before you decide to commit to one thing or another. Love.

 

Even though we're all obsessed with labels, in the end they are at best just approximations. Sexuality in someone is very fluid, and changes from person to person you meet, from time to time, and with the myriad of experiences that you have. Don't worry about what you are, just live, and be open to whatever attractions come, or don't come. Just be kind to others, and your life will unfold as it always does. All my best wishes to you.

 

What should I say? I have a lot of knowledge in this, but I know it plays out as a smartoholic if I try to give advice. I can only tell you what I experience still and even now, but that I chose to instead retain my original orientation and so to find flaw with my new found perception.

In my life it felt like the right thing to embrace new emotional territory. It felt like a new and more intelligent way to approach life, and I needed a break and clarity.

I wanted it to work but I was too fat. I wanted to be loved, but I was too fat. My body wasn't very androgenous, and when I looked in the mirror, I didn't think I was attractive. I also was uncircumcised until I was a little older and it was working against me in my 'sex life'.

And after a long while of being fat and not good enough to be gay, I realized something. Instead of bridging that way, I could bridge back to my family and back to a more traditional and practical approach to my life.

People who have a more attractive reflection have a harder decision to make. I'll talk to them, but taking my advice would be best understood in the context of a Mexican boy whose sex life wasn't working because of his weight.

The discovery for me was at the end mostly about self-discovery without understanding my life within the bounds of 'coming out of the closet'. I did not need that distinction to observe myself living life on my own terms, and for that I count myself an intellectual.

 

I don't think that is against you, no matter if it does manifest for you into a new tradition in love.

What I mean to say is you are not wrong or shamed for understanding the metric by which attraction is understood. You can also recognize these things like a sense of humor! I can see when I'm friends with Channing Tatum that he's funny! And I know too that he's handsome. But I don't let myself go in that direction even if I could; not that Channing would ever go for it, that's not what I'm saying.

What I mean is there is intellect where you are seeing yourself newly able to find the attractive features appealing. When I make the decision 'not to be attracted to Channing Tatum', I'm also making a social choice about my societal 'carbon footprint', how it would affect those who I have influence on like cousins, or like friends, or like colleagues who don't understand that, or like parents; it is a nightmare for parents, especially if they don't understand. My parents are not Gen X or Y or Z compatible mostly. They are a boomer couple with a very healthy and dignified societal 'carbon footprint' that holds up for PTA as well as it does Bingo!

 

Well, hell. She last logged on in January.

Some good advice in here, however, so for anyone with the same concern...